GOD's Creation of Man

Blessings Money Cannot Buy

GOD's best gifts for this life (and hopefully for the Millennial Reign of Christ), which He refers to as good & perfect gifts - the gifts of marriage/romantic love/wedded love/the marriage bed, and the beloved fruit of the womb/babies/children; thus, GOD's priceless gifts of marriage & family.

CBM's editor believes (the world's prevailing 'wisdom' notwithstanding) that the actual pleasure of sexual relations is chiefly emotional/spiritual pleasure and delight, not physical sensory 'ecstasy' of mythical proportions, and that what physical/sexual and sensual sensations may be experienced (and hopefully enjoyed in wedded love) are in fact relatively mild.  Therefore, since one can (and typically does) have romantic and sexual desire for various people, and the actual physical/sexual sensations are far less moving, far less satisfying, far less enduring, and far less important than the emotional/spiritual feelings, communion, and bond that marriage was created and is meant to encompass, i.e., a covenant commitment for life, for keeps, and for good; if we are truly to enjoy the marriage union that God intended, we should absolutely each choose our marriage partner prayerfully and with the very greatest of care!

But first a cautionary statement, which underscores God's emphasis with regard to sexuality.

Jeremiah 17:9-10

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?

I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings.

[All persons who foolishly imagine & trust that God the Father & Jesus Christ the Son & the Holy Spirit have changed their standards, i.e., have become more lenient/tolerant/permissive with their standards, e.g., concerning sexual misconduct, will be in for a truly terrible surprise and comeuppance at the day of judgment!

On the other hand, God is not a prude!  Prudishness is not godliness.  And longstanding laws in the USA, going back hundreds of years, concerning policing sexual relations between husbands and wives were and are shamefully, disgracefully, and inexcusably contrary to the Word of God, and to the Will of God, though they were purportedly based on God's Holy Word.  These so-called "blue laws" have cast stumblingblocks before God's children, caused God's children offense, and resulted in God's children being alienated from God.  Additionally, the unbiblicalness and anti-biblicalness of these so-called "blue laws" have actually strengthened the hands of sinners who have chosen to make themselves enemies of God, to persistently rebel against God and His Holy Word and all Righteousness, and to seek to destroy Biblical laws and morality, e.g., God's institution of Holy Matrimony, fear of God, reverence of God, and obedience to God.

Wedded sexual practices/conduct will be addressed in a sub-chapter.]

James 1:16-18

Do not err, my beloved brethren.  Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of Lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.  Of His own will begat HE us with the Word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of His creatures.

Romans 10:8-13

But what saith it?  The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth, and in thy heart: that is, the word of faith, which we preach; That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.  For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.  For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on Him shall not be ashamed.  For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon Him.  For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.

The Creator GOD

Genesis 1:26-31

And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat.  And to every beast of the earth, and to every fowl of the air, and to every thing that creepeth upon the earth, wherein there is life, I have given every green herb for meat: and it was so.

And God saw every thing that he had made, and behold, it was very good.  And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.


Genesis 2:18-25

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.  And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Adam Eve

Genesis 5:1-2

This is the book of the generations of Adam.  In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made He him; Male and female created He them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.

Proverbs 5:1-23

My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.

For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.  Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.

Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them.  Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth.

Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house; Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed, And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!

I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.

Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.  Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.  Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with theeLet thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youthLet her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times: and be thou ravished always with her love.

And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?  For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings.  His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.  He shall die without instruction: and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

Malachi 2:10-3:7

Have we not all one father? hath not one God created us? why do we deal treacherously every man against his brother, by profaning the covenant of our fathers?  Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the LORD which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange godThe LORD will cut off the man that doeth this, the master and the scholar, out of the tabernacles of Jacob, and him that offereth an offering unto the LORD of hosts.

And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.  Yet ye say, Wherefore?

Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously; yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.  And did not He make one?  Yet had He the residue of the spirit.  And wherefore one?  That He might seek a godly seed.

Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Ye have wearied the LORD with your words.  Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him?  When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD, and he delighteth in them: or, Where is the God of judgment?

Behold, I will send my messenger, and he shall prepare the way before me, and the LORD, whom ye seek, shall suddenly come to his temple, even the messenger of the covenant, whom ye delight in: behold, he shall come saith the LORD of hosts.

But who may abide the day of his coming? and who shall stand when he appeareth? for he is like a refiner's fire, and like fuller's soap: And he shall sit as a refiner and purifier of silver: and he shall purify the sons of Levi, and purge them as gold and silver, that they may offer unto the LORD an offering in righteousness.

Then shall the offering of Judah and Jerusalem be pleasant unto the LORD, as in the days of old, and as in former years.  And I will come near to you to judgment: and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in his wages, the widow and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger from his right, and fear not me, saith the LORD of hosts.

For I am the LORD, I change not: therefore ye sons of Jacob are not consumed.  Even from the days of your fathers ye are gone away from mine ordinances, and have not kept them.  Return unto me, and I will return unto you saith the LORD of hosts.  But ye said, Wherein shall we return?

Matthew 5:31-32

It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Matthew 7:6

Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.

[There is much, much more on this subject to be found in Proverbs, though such cautionary advice is typically addressed to young men and men, since maidens, young women, and women typically were sheltered, protected, taken care of...in the bad old patriarchal days, unlike during these modern times in which all godly order is undermined, perverted, and overthrown in the name of progress, advancement, liberty, equality, opportunity....]

Matthew 19:3-12

The Pharisees also came unto Him, tempting Him, and saying unto Him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

And He answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.  What therefore GOD hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto Him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.  And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

His disciples say unto Him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

But He said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.  For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake.  He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

For What CauseThis Cause, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him!"

Notice GOD says "I will make him an help meet for him."  God does not say I will make buddies for him, and pals, friends, support groups, prayer circles, clubs, teams...but "an help meet for him!"

For those who state that this scripture does not mean that people have a need for marriage, the fact is GOD plainly, unmistakably states that His solution for man's aloneness, is His provision of marriage with an help meet, a suitable helper, a created, fashioned, prepared spouse, PERIOD!

To those oh-so wise, oh-so thankful married people including ministers and "experts" who are ever anxious to communicate that marriage does not solve anything, certainly not lust or desire for sexual relations, and to also communicate how tough marriage is (I have suffered many of these fools during my lifetime, there are many out there!); I say, you miserable ungrateful wretches, you pervert the right word of God and callously cast stumblingblocks before those less fortunate than yourselves!  I have always been profoundly convinced of the folly of these "experts" et al, but unable to convince those who are subverted by them.

The following scripture is part of a passage concerning the foretold Messiah, but interestingly it speaks to God's provision of marriage for His children.

Isaiah 7:15 "Butter and honey shall he eat, that he may know to refuse the evil, and choose the good."

'Oh brother, oh sister, if you are not totally at peace with your singleness and free from sexual desire or lust, then you should never marry, you are not fit for marriage, you will be miserable in marriage....'  Oh really, you fools and liars!  God does not command His children to abstain from "evil" in a vacuum devoid of "good."  Instead, God commands His children to abstain from sin, from evil, from abomination, and cleave to the good!  God commands His children to choose the good and refuse the evil!  This is a theme throughout His Holy Bible; but if you want to believe the "experts" to your detriment (and that of others), you may.

However, not all of we people have been so blessed as to have the opportunity to receive GOD's good and perfect gift of wedded love in the marriage bed, the reasons vary from person to person; one reason which most especially prevents entering into marriage is failure to meet, become acquainted with, and become friends with one who truly is a helper meet for you, whom you love and who loves you (I know whereof I speak), and truly this impediment is not an easy one to overcome, especially if you are waiting for GOD's best (despite needing one, any one pleasing to GOD and to you, that GOD would graciously provide).

Not everyone in this adulterous and sinful generation is doing whatever they please, public opinion notwithstanding.

According to JESUS, the men not able to marry (to receive marriage [the uniting of one man and one woman into one flesh]), are those who cannot, and thus will not, become one flesh sexually with a woman via sexual intercourse/coitus/copulation.

According to JESUS, What happens when a man marries a woman, he takes her (sexually), cleaves unto her (sexually), and they two become one flesh, for God supernaturally joins them together as one!

Matthew 19:17-19

And He said unto him, Why callest thou Me good? there is none good but one, that is, GOD: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments.

He saith unto Him, Which?

JESUS said, Thou shalt do no murder, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

The Creation Touch close-up detail from GOD's Creation of Man

Mark 10:2-12

And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.

And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?

And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.

And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.  But from the beginning of the creation GOD made them male and female.  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife: And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.  What therefore GOD hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.

And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.  And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

Mark 10:19

Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not murder, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother.

Luke 16:18

Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

I Corinthians 6:9-20

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God?  Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.  And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.  Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats, but God shall destroy both it and them.  Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.  And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power.

Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot?  God forbid.

But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.

Flee fornication.  Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

I Corinthians 7:1-16

(This was written by Paul who had " the gift of singleness"! and as you will please also note he repeatedly signals at key points that he is speaking his thoughts, not the Lord's commandments, nor the Lord's Words; this is a most unusual chapter in the Bible, for these reasons; therefore, please handle it/apply it with the greatest of care! and compare it with the full counsel of God, even including the epistles of Paul such as I Timothy 4:1-6

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. (According to Paul who had the gift of singleness and wished that all men had the same gift.  Again, this chapter in which Paul specifically states that he is at certain points in the chapter speaking his own thoughts not the Lord'sPlease balance this carefully with the full counsel of God throughout the Bible and what God shares directly from Jesus the Messiah, which are diametrically contrary to these thoughts of Paul.)

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.  Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband.  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wifeDefraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.  For I would that all men were even as I myself.  (Paul had the gift of singleness, which was not God's will for the vast majority of men, much less for all men; Paul's will that all men be devoid of desire for marriage was NOT God's will at all!)  But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.  But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.  (Indeed, charitable of you Paul!)

And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.  And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.  For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.  But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart.  A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.  For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

I Corinthians 7:25-40

Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.

I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.  Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed.  Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.  But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned.  Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.  [This is breathtaking, by stating that men and women who marry are not sinning, he implies that marriage is sinful; the Roman Catholics took this and ran with it.]

But this I say, brethren, the time is short, it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; And they that use this world as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.  But I would have you without carefulness.  He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.  There is difference also between a wife and a virgin.  The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for things of the world, how she may please her husband.  And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.  

(Regrettably, Paul does cast a Very Large Stumblingblock before many a devout believer who does not have the gift of singleness, for whom attending upon the Lord without undue distraction is far easier and safer as a married person than as an unmarried person; people for whom God created, intended, and provided the gift of marriage for, as Jesus attests to.  Paul had blind spots and did a great disservice to these people as he utterly failed to comprehend this.  Even as celibacy is continence for an unmarried person and celibacy is incontinence for a married person, so singleness for a person who does not have the gift of singleness is a bitter and terribly burdensome and mightily distracting unnatural state, whereas singleness for one like Paul was his preferred natural state.  Thus Paul piously subjects multitudes to jeopardy for their eternal souls in order to please his idea of the perfect state of being, i.e., celibacy, contrary to the full counsel, plan, and will of God!)

But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.  (So Paul 'graciously' allows for marriage if the virgin has entered menopause! because children will not be 'in the way.'  Outstanding!)

Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.  So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.  (Again according to whose judgment?  According to PAUL'S!!!)

The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will only in the Lord.  But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.  (Yes, Paul had the Spirit of God, but his judgment in place after place after place after place here in 1 Corinthians 7 is coming forth from the spirit of Paul, not from the Spirit of God; and Paul even admits it, and Paul did not have a spirit like most of us, i.e., not like the overwhelming majority of us, as he had the gift of singleness, which is the exception to the rule.)

I Corinthians 9:3-5

Mine answer to them that do examine me is this, Have we not power to eat and to drink?  Have we not power to lead about a sister, a wife, as well as other apostles, and as the brethren of the Lord, and Cephas?

I Corinthians 10:8

Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.

I Corinthians 11:3, 7-12, 15

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the manFor the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the manNeither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels.  Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.  For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.

But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.

Wedding Vows

Ephesians 4:17- 20

This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind, Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart: Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.  But ye have not so learned Christ

Ephesians 5:3-7

But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.  For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.  Let no man [including Billy Graham and John Paul II] deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.  Be not ye therefore partakers with them.

Ephesians 5:14-19

Wherefore he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light.  See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.  Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.  And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;

Wedding Vows

Ephesians 5:20-33

Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that is should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.  He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. [But unlike Paul, when Jesus Christ quoted this scripture he was Always referring directly to the marriage of a man and  woman, not marriage of Christ and the church!]

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

For What CauseThis Cause, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him!"

Question: Did Christ love the church more, or did the church love Christ more?  Then should it not follow that the man should love his wife more than his wife should love him, even as Christ loved the church more than the church loved Him?

Ephesians 6:1-4

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.  Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.  And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Colossians 3:18-23

Let no man beguile you of your reward in a voluntary humility and worshipping of angels, intruding into those things which he hath not seen vainly puffed up by his fleshly mind, And not holding the Head, from which all the body by joints and bands having nourishment ministered, and knit together, increaseth with the increase of God.

Wherefore if ye be dead with Christ from the rudiments of the world, why, as though living in the world, are ye subject to ordinances, (Touch not; taste not; handle not; Which all are to perish with the using;) after the commandments and doctrines of men?  Which things have indeed a shew of wisdom in will worship, and humility, and neglecting of the body; not in any honour to the satisfying of the flesh.

I Timothy 4:1-6

Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils: Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.  For every creature of God is good, and nothing to be refused, if it be received with thanksgiving: For it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.

If thou put the brethren in remembrance of these things, thou shalt be a good minister of Jesus Christ, nourished up in the words of faith and of good doctrine, whereunto thou hast attained.  (AMEN!)

Wedding in Moscow, Russia

Hebrews 13:4

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge.

Regardless what apostate theologians spuriously and heretically claim, this scripture clearly is not stating that adulterous 'marriages' are honorable; these sham 'marriages' are anything but honorable!  In fact in God's sight these sham 'marriages' are not marriages at all!  This subject is treated in greater depth at the end of this chapter/page.

I Peter 3:1-11

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

Whose adorning, let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel: But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing: knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.  For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.

Romans 1:16-32

For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth: to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.  For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith.  For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them.

For the invisible things of Him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse: Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.  Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools.  And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.

Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever.  Amen.

For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another: men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.

And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient: Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness, full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity: whisperers, Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same but have pleasure in them that do them.

Jude 1:7

Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.

The Revelation of St. John the Divine

Revelation 2:14-16

But I have a few things against thee, because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumblingblock before the children of Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit fornicationSo hast thou also them that hold the doctrine of the Nicolaitans, which thing I hateRepent: or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will fight against them with the sword of my mouth.

Revelation 2:20-25

Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols.

And I gave her space to repent of her fornication: and she repented not.  Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.  And I will kill her children with death: and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.

But unto you I say, and unto the rest in Thyatira, as many as have not this doctrine, and which have not known the depths of Satan, as they speak; I will put upon you none other burden.  But that which ye have already hold fast till I come.

Rev. 9:20

And the rest of the men which were not killed by these plagues yet repented not of the works of their hands, that they should not worship devils, and idols of gold, and silver, and brass, and stone, and of wood: which neither can see, nor hear, nor walk: Neither repented they of their murders, nor of their sorceries, nor of their fornication, nor of their thefts.

Rev. 17:4-6

And the woman was arrayed in purple and scarlet colour, and decked with gold and precious stones and pearls, having a golden cup in her hand full of abominations and filthiness of her fornication: And upon her forehead was a name written, MYSTERY, BABYLON THE GREAT, THE MOTHER OF HARLOTS AND ABOMINATIONS OF THE EARTH.

And I saw the woman drunken with the blood of the saints, and with the blood of the martyrs of Jesus.

Rev. 21:7-8

He that overcometh, shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son.

But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.

Rev. 21:27

And there shall in no wise enter into it any thing that defileth, neither whatsoever worketh abomination, or maketh a lie: but they which are written in the Lamb's book of life.

Rev. 22:10-17

And he saith unto me, Seal not the sayings of the prophecy of this book: for the time is at hand.  He that is unjust, let him be unjust still: and he which is filthy, let him be filthy still: and he that is righteous, let him be righteous still: and he that is holy, let him be holy still.

And behold, I come quickly: and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be.  I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, the first and the last.

Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city.  For without are dogs [Sodomites], and sorcerers, and whoremongers, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie.

I Jesus have sent mine angel to testify unto you these things in the churches, I am the root and the offspring of David, and the bright and morning star.

And the Spirit and the bride say, Come.  And let him that heareth say, Come.  And let him that is athirst come.  And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.

Ed's Summary of John 2:1-11 - At a wedding in Cana of Galilee, Jesus spares a bridegroom (who is poor in material goods & unable to furnish his wedding feast with adequate wine...for the guests) from suffering embarrassment and shame, and blesses him, by turning water into abundant wine for all present to drink (the wine he miraculously created was the best wine, unlike that which had already been consumed).  Thus, Jesus of Nazareth, the Messiah, the Christ, manifested forth his glory with this, the beginning of Miracles.  An incredible beginning of miracles for Jesus the Messiah to commence His ministry with, don't you agree?  Creating wine from water for a wedding party to enjoy, thus sparing the reputation of a new bridegroom on his wedding day, and thus blessing the bridegroom and bride and their wedding and marriage.

.  Did you happen to see the story about the bridegroom who had a 'disagreement' with his bride at their wedding reception, sometime shortly after the wedding ceremony.  The night in shining armor slaughtered his new bride, stabbing her repeatedly including immediately beneath her left eye (remember there's no such thing as a bad boy!), family members of the bride came running after hearing her bloodcurdling screams.

I don't know how you feel about such variations on the wedding 'and until death do us part' theme as this, but I can say that I personally take particular exception to such exercise of freedoms (and yes you may counter that this is just my opinion, and everyone's entitled to their own opinion).  Personally, I have been hoping for marriage for 40 years, and praying for marriage going on 36 years now!; and as narrow and intolerant as it may sound, I take exception to bridegrooms slaughtering brides, and while I do not consider the following scenario to be the ultimate in consummated marriage, conjugal love, and happiness forever, I would have much less difficulty with a bridegroom sacrificially laying down his life to save his bride from being slaughtered (as Jesus incidentally did), than with a bridegroom murderously attacking and destroying his bride (and doing so immediately after being formally wed to her yet!).  Sorry folks, but that's just the way I am, you know, a narrow-minded, intolerant, judgmental, holier than thou, bigoted...angry, middle-aged white man....

P.S. - The account of the groom slaughtering the bride is not intended to describe some other act of unspeakable savagery such as O.J.'s slaughter of his wife Nicole and Ron Goldman, though the principal is not totally different, is it, and while Ron Goldman would not appear to be a knight in shining armor on most counts, and though he was not married to Nicole, apparently he did sacrificially attempt to save Nicole from being slaughtered by her dear hubby, murderously knife-wielding O.J. who at 6' 3" 235 lbs. of truly hard-body lean musculature, was perhaps the most dominant player the NFL has ever seen.  Of course, the truth of O.J.'s bloodguilt did not play well with the ever  politically-correct press because he (Ron Goldman) was a white (Jew), Nicole was a white woman (Nicole was not O.J.'s first wife), and O.J. was a most highly celebrated 'man of color,' so clearly O.J. was being railroaded...poor O.J.

A cautionary "word" regarding confidence

Have you seen and heard the published/announced results of recent opinion polls which have been conducted to determine which personal "quality" or characteristic is the most admired, appreciated, and winning (at least in the USofA of Today)?   The overwhelming consensus "quality" or characteristic was confidence, i.e., self-confidence, and supreme self confidence.  Additionally, I have read time and time again..., in various columns or articles, of women stating that the most important quality they look for and/or value in a man is confidence (& the more the better); they then compound this by discounting men who will not assertively pursue them.  What do you think of that?  Is there possibly a potential problem with unmarried women being overly impressed with men who exude tremendous self-confidence, and summarily rejecting men who do not exude such confidence in self?

Have you ever heard of "con-men," or of being "conned"?  You haven't?!  "Con-man" is an abbreviation for, or contraction of,  "Confidence man," which refers to men who are swindlers, liars, thieves, defrauders...men who rely on their ability to persuade and manipulate people by their exploitation of confidence!  Confidence men also rely upon the oft-seen tendency of people to be taken in and fooled by unscrupulous con-men, including con-men operating as politicians, televangelists, ad men, cult leaders....  Confidence men depend on fooling some of the people all of the time, and fooling most of the people some of the time.  Ladies, kindly, for your sakes, beware of confidence-men!

Christian ladies, please be wise virgins, not foolish ones!  Please have the uncommon good sense to give good christian men who are not overflowing with self-confidence, nor swagger, nor chutzpah, a chance to earn your love and affections.

Much of the christian church in America is a disgraceful mess, and consequently so is much of church life within the church, as is attested to by more than 50% of ministers being divorced and adulterously "remarried" (not counting all of the ministers who have not divorced their wives, but commit adultery against them).  Then too, more than 50% of professing christians have divorced and adulterously "remarried" at least once!!! [The latest figures I have heard have escalated to 70%!]

Yes, the "church" leaves something to be desired; it leaves a very great deal to be desired!  Wisdom is not the most commonly found attribute among christians in general, nor among darling, eligible, christian women.

However, I do not recommend that you do as I have done, because my personal experience has been that the longer you wait, the longer you will wait until it is essentially too late!

But whatever else you do, you must avoid the Scott Petersons and Drew Petersons of this world, monstrous destroyers who are never lacking in confidence, no matter how much else they may be lacking!!!

The Creation Touch close-up detail from GOD's Creation of Man

Please do not get too touchy about the things I am about to share with you.  Thank you.

.  Now for a treat that you may not have been looking for.  This letter is directed to any and all unmarried christian women who have decided that singleness is for them, i.e., that they should not marry, that they can be more pleasing to God by remaining unmarried than by marrying...that they can perform a greater service to God the Father and Jesus the Son, by refusing marriage with the men they were created for (even as Eve was created for Adam).

Everyone is free to live their own life as they are granted temporal liberty to do (if they are so fortunate), and we all are individuals, yes even identical twins are unique individuals.  I realize you ladies may not have met men that were acceptable to you, or that you felt were truly God's best, or were God's choice or God's will for you, or conversely, perhaps men that you have felt were right for you have not felt that way about you or were unwilling to marry you.  These are certainly legitimate reasons for not having married yet (and frankly can plague one for a lifetime), and should in truth keep one from marrying until one has opportunity to marry "the right one" or "a right one."

But dear ladies please hear me, as one called to be a faithful steward of God's Word, and one who has always desired the same blessings for others, as he has desired for himself.  By all means marry men who are youthful, strong, handsome, robustly healthy, full of life, flourishing, and thriving, but hopefully who are also noble, honourable, faithful, courageous, industrious, sober and not devoid of godly wisdom, as your safety in this unsafe world will in some measure depend on your choice of husband. Big boys whose chief qualities are being in love with life; living life to the fullest; going for the gusto; being enthusiastic; optimistic; positive; upbeat; supremely self-confident; happy-go-lucky; fun-loving; carefree; prosperous; and successful; are fellows who have no understanding of the times in which we live....  [Note: prosperity and worldly success are routinely not linked to industry, but frequently are linked to dishonesty, dishonour, shallowness, selfishness, greed, covetousness, and lust....]

And lest you should be tempted to view the following treatise as too "man-centered," please consider it sincerely in light of the following scripture which was breathed by God's Holy Spirit of Truth:

I Corinthians 11:9  "Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man."

God did not create us to abstain from sexual sin in a vacuum, i.e., with no provision for the fulfillment of our natural, and God-breathed, God-designed sexual desires, NO!

God has commanded us to receive the good and refuse the evil!

God instructs us that by receiving the good, we will know to refuse the evil (and be able to refuse the evil)!

Isaiah 7:15

Butter and honey shall he eat, that he may know to refuse the evil, and choose the good.

Proverbs 27:7

The full soul loatheth an honeycomb; but to the hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet.

{A man who is perpetually satiated with his bride's sexual affections will refuse the charms of other women, but a man who is denied the sexual affections of the woman who should be his bride will perpetually be in grave jeopardy of falling into sexual sin with sinful women.}

Proverbs 24:13

My son, eat thou honey, because it is good; and the honeycomb, which is sweet to thy taste.

{One honey, and one honeycomb!}

Proverbs 25:16

Hast thou found honey? eat so much as is sufficient for thee, lest thou be filled therewith, and vomit it.

{One honey, and one honeycomb; not more than one honey, nor more than one honeycomb!}

Proverbs 25:27

It is not good to eat much honey;

{Not more than one honey, nor more than one honeycomb!}

There are fools (or worse) out there calling themselves Bible teachers who teach christian single women that christian men must overcome all sexual desire, i.e., lust, before they can marry; God teaches no such thing, and not even Paul speaking by the Holy Ghost teaches any such thing, in fact Martin Luther taught correctly that sexual lust impels man to seek marriage!

Martin Luther was right, and so was F.B. Meyer when he wrote the following:

"The seabirds do not roam the acres of sparkling wavelets in vain; nor in vain do the young lions roar after their food.  The babe does not cry for sustenance that is not stored for it or the youth demand the love the maiden cannot give.  It were rather a devil who should make the appetite without providing means for its satisfactionBut our God creates the desire that He may give it realization.  The very desire is blessed.  As we desire, we possess."

God created the desire for sexual union and marriage in Adam, and further awakened Adam to that desire and need prior to causing Adam to sleep only for the purpose of performing the surgery and awaking Adam from the surgery to find the perfectly created fulfillment of his desire and need.  Unworthy teachers teach all manner of disastrously ruinous folly, casting stumblingblocks before God's children, including: that men must die to their desire for sexual union and marriage if God is to ever provide for their need; that men must renounce all right to sexual union and marriage, if God is to ever provide for their need (even Paul denounced such heresy!); that sexual union and marriage are non-essential desires not needs....  The pity is that those who teach such harmful error and heresy succeed in causing those who are of tender consciences and sensibilities, unenlightened regarding God's Word and truth, and overly influenced by self-important "teachers" into being cheated out of God's good and perfect gifts and/or falling into sin.

Dear Ladies, please hear me out:

1) GOD did create you for some man, unless you have the gift of singleness, i.e., unless you have no desire whatever for marriage - for romantic love, for wedded love, for the marriage bed, for sexual union with your husband to be.

Your still being single does Not mean that you have the gift of singleness, contrary to what some married 'experts' on singleness damnably teach!!!  Jesus said in Matthew 19, "He that is able to receive it, let him receive it."  This means that those men who are unmarried and sexually able to take a wife should do so (and I would if I could ever meet the right woman, and persuade her).  Whereas, those comparatively few persons who have the gift of singleness do not desire to receive it, i.e., they do not desire to receive marriage/wedded love/sexual union.  Please do not be deceived by purported 'experts,' who foolishly, callously, blindly cast stumbling blocks before God's children, causing them to miss out on what God created for them to receive, and worst of all putting them at jeopardy daily and nightly of dying in sin alienated from God and suffering eternal damnation!  Ladies think what you will of me, but I care for your eternal souls and for your lives now; and it bears stating again, I have always desired the same good and perfect gifts for others that I have desired for myself.

2) Whoever the man is that GOD created you for, that man needs you, more than you know.  You may not have a burning desire for marriage, but that does not mean the man does not, and he may have been struggling with such desire for a long time.  It is an enormous struggle, temptation, vulnerability, disappointment, discouragement, and deprivation of abundant life for a man who was created to receive marriage to go on year after year, decade after decade with no sweetheart, no lover, no spouse, no bride, no helpmeet, no wife (I know whereof I speak).

3) Even if you imagine you do not need him, he does need you, very much, and is in unnecessary jeopardy without you!  He needs you to love and to be loved by.  He needs you if he is not to be tempted above that he is able to withstand.  He needs you if he is to be able to flee temptation and contain acceptably in the marriage bed with one spouse for life, with the one spouse God created to be his provision, his mate for life.  He needs you in order to be content with his one beloved bride.  He needs you if he is to be safe from sexual immorality during these most seductive of times, and thus if he is to be used mightily by GOD.  He needs you if he is to realize his desire for his beloved bride, for all that she is that he is not, for all that GOD created her to be for him, e.g., sweetheart, lover, spouse, helpmeet, best friend, encourager, emotional supporter, confidante, One Flesh, bone of his bones, and flesh of his flesh....

4) The time is short, and this time is the most intensely Satanic of all times, prior to Satan's ultimate (but short-lived) world takeover.  GOD created marriage "to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth," not to be abstained from, nor to be refused.  GOD's good and perfect gift of marriage is for this lifetime and perhaps for the millennial reign (I dearly hope so), but regrettably is not for Heaven/Eternity.  You can choose to refuse GOD's gift, and to cheat the man GOD created you for out of GOD's good and perfect provision for him, which he needs during this lifetime, but do not deceive yourself into thinking that this is especially praiseworthy, or pleasing to God, nor especially worthy service to God, for it is not!  It is not more praiseworthy to avoid what GOD intended you for, and intended for you, than to submit to his will is it?  Singleness is not more holy than marriage!   Prudishness is not next to godliness!  GOD is not a prude!  And additionally, each of us will be single for all of eternity, that will commence soon enough!

5) If you want the man GOD created you for to miss out on you, to miss out on your love, your beauty, your affection, your company, you may so choose, i.e., you are free to choose badly, but choose carefully, thoughtfully, prayerfully please, according to what is best for GOD, for you, and for the man whom GOD created you for, and created for you, and remember that man needs you.

6) If you want the man GOD created you for to struggle with singleness, having no beloved bride, as he waits for his 'true love' GOD's best for him, you may choose to psuedo-piously refuse him; the less holy men haven't been waiting have they?

7) If you want the man GOD created you for to fall into sin, and/or to marry the wrong woman, perhaps even an enemy of his soul, you may psuedo-piously refuse him; but perhaps in this regard you should consider whether you are in some measure that man's keeper, if GOD created you for him, created you for him to cleave unto, created you to love him and to help him...or whether you are to choose to resist GOD's will, and refuse the man GOD created you for, as so many resist GOD's will and refuse the Lord Jesus we were created for.  Am I asking you to saddle yourself with false guilt, NO; but consider whether your man needs you (and whether you are truly most pleasingly, obediently serving the LORD by refusing him, or whether you are perhaps refusing to submit to God, by refusing the man He created you for).

8) If you want that man to be his best, and to do his best for the Lord, then perhaps you should reconsider what you are doing with your life, and whether it is what the Lord really wants of you, whether it is really your highest service to GOD after all!

9) If you have not been created for a man, if you have been given the gift of singleness, not merely unstirred sexual desire, untapped sexual response, unwetted sexual appetite, but have literally been given the gift of singleness, i.e., sexual non-desire (not a traumatic reaction resulting from rape...), or if the man you were created for has been killed, or given in marriage to another woman, then perhaps, and I do mean perhaps singleness is for you; but still consider, even if the man for you has been tragically killed or has died prematurely, or has married some other woman, there may be another godly man who needs you, a man who has been deprived of the woman God created for him, whether by her death or her marriage to some other man, and thus perhaps GOD would have you to be given in marriage to such a man, a man who needs a woman like you to marry, and love, and be loved by.

10) Ladies, regarding your marrying "the right man for you," "the best man for you," "Mr. Right!"; "the right man for you," "the best man for you," "Mr. Right," is the man whom God in His wisdom created you for, not to be confused with men who may claim that God told them you are supposed to marry them (this particularly ruinous scam is prevalent in Bible Schools and multitudes of unwise young christian women fall for it, after all it is so "spiritual" isn't it; multitudes, i.e., approximately 33.3% of these same young women also are divorced within three years time!).  If the man is the one God created you for, there will be attraction to him (perchance even if he is as old and broken down as I now am, by way of an extreme example), and there will be other indicators from God that the man is the one God intended you for (not the man telling you that God purportedly told him that you are supposed to marry him!).

Is marriage always wonderful, or always good, or always of GOD, heavens NO!  On the other hand, is marriage (intended by GOD, designed by GOD, created by GOD, arranged by GOD), deserving of being spurned, dismissed as being below or unworthy of we people, or thought lightly of, No! and don't fool yourself into imagining that GOD thinks His most valuable gift for this life is unworthy of you.

Additionally (contrary to what is so often communicated), marriage was not created specifically for the best of times, but truly for the worst of times too, marriage was not intended only to be the frosting on the cake, but to be the cake; even as sexual union in the marriage bed was intended to be a daily/nightly meal/feast/respite/vacation/blessing.

Going through the tribulation will not be easier unmarried than married, it really will not!  GOD bless you ladies now and always.

Dear Ladies, your heavenly Father knew what was best for you when He created you, and feminist dogma notwithstanding, your best interests are served by agreeing with His Word and will for you, and not being seduced by satanically crafted feminist lies, deceptions, and delusion (which have pervaded the churches).

May God keep you from evil, and bless you exceeding abundantly above all that you can ask, or think, or imagine; and may He bless each of you with marriage and wedded love with the man that He created you for, or whom He now intends you for, and whom is not coincidentally also the best man for you.


Brad Thomas, aka CBM's Editor, "Ed."

Blessings, Numbers 6:24-27

Proverbs 30:18-19

There be three things which are too wonderful for me, yea, four which I know not: The way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent upon a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and the way of a man with a maid.

Jewish Wedding, but according to man's tradition, like Fiddler on the Roof

A nice wedding ceremony right?  Perhaps; but joyfully festive for sure.

What constitutes marriage, and what does not constitute marriage?

No doubt more than a few will have difficulty with this answer to the question of what constitutes marriage, and what does not constitute marriage, but the truth is from God's Word, not from corrupt man.

A nice ceremony does not make a man and woman married, no matter how purportedly 'official' the ceremony is.  The 'authority' vested in ministers (or even Justices of the Peace, or Notary Publics...) by states (or in Airline Pilots in flight or Ship's Captains at sea) does not truly confer married status upon anyone.  A government approved marriage license and certificate does not make anyone married, anymore than a government approved divorce decree makes any married man & woman cease to be married!  [Surprise!]

Going through the motions of state-sanctioned and reprobate-minister-officiated "marriage" ceremonies, does not join adulterers (and people who have given themselves over to whoredom) in anything other than coldly calculated, premeditated sin and condemnation!

Since governments and man-made laws can not truly join a man & woman in one flesh and spirit in marriage, how can a man and woman be joined as one in holy marriage?

Adam and Eve were wed, without ceremony, without a minister, without bridesmaids, without documentation, without identification, without a blood test, without witnesses other than God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Ghost, who created them in their image, and the additional witness of the Heavenly Host; and furthermore, they were wed without an introduction and without so much as becoming acquainted prior to becoming husband and wife!  How could such a thing be, especially seeing as they were the first married couple, and thus provided the original precedent for all marriages to follow?  God gave Adam clear direction that Eve was the woman, the mate for him, Adam did not require more than that to claim the bride provided for him by God, and Eve lovingly received her husband at his immediate naked advance.

Isaac and Rebekah were wed without anything more than her acceptance of Abraham's offer of marriage to his son Isaac, initially  presented by Abraham's servant to Rebekah's father Bethuel and her brother Laban (the next day presented as an ultimatum to Rebekah by her family [after they had already given Abraham's servant permission the day before to take her to Abraham's son Isaac to be his wife]), and the acceptance of wedding gifts given to Rebekah and her family, and requisitely Isaac's act of taking Rebekah to him to wife.  The same evening that she arrived via caravan Isaac took Rebekah into the tent (his deceased mother's tent) and clave unto Rebekah, cutting the covenant, the marriage covenant with her, under God, by sexually deflowering her.  But how could God approve of anything as unromantic and intemperate, as passionate and lustful, as this?  The answer is simple really (prevailing wisdom notwithstanding), God is not a prude, and this biblical pattern of marriage-union was good enough for God the Father, God the Son, & God the Holy Ghost to design, invent, create, inspire, accept, and give their approval of, calling it very good!  As for those who are holier than God, holier than Jesus...oh well.

States, governments, religious institutions...do not have a right to join people in marriage, nor are able to; much less to put asunder those whom God has joined in marriage, whether by performing 'divorces,' or proclaiming "annulments!"  [Let me emphasize this again - Religious groups, sects, orders, hierarchies, governments, judges, rulers, and leaders cannot "annul" actual marriages!  God forbids them to do so!  "What God hath joined together, let not man put asunder!"]  Governments, bureaucrats, and religious hierarchical rulers do not have authority, power, stature, nor standing to join people in marriage, and in truth governments only have authority delegated to them, they cannot legitimately 'create' powers, which does not deter them from incessantly and monstrously attempting to, and claiming to.

What actually joins a man and woman in marriage is for a man and woman to covenant with God to become one in his sight, under him, in submission to him, for keeps.  A 'covenant' which God is not the principal party to is not a covenant at all; a 'covenant' which excludes God, is not a covenant, no matter how official and religious and fancy it may be appear to be.  A 'covenant' which God forbids, can not be a covenant!  A 'covenant' which God does not enter into, is not a covenant!

Additionally, if there is no cutting of the covenant ( i.e., no consummation of marriage, no union by sexual intercourse/coitus/copulation), there is no oneness of man and woman.  The man and woman may be betrothed, but without sexual union the man and woman do not become one.  Furthermore, if the man is a man and not a fraud (i.e., not a sodomite...), he will consummate his marriage immediately, i.e., the day/night of his wedding.  If he does not consummate his marriage, he is not married.  Joseph the betrothed husband of Mary the mother of Jesus, deferred conjugal love, sexual union with his betrothed bride only because she was with child by the Holy Ghost.  Once she had given birth to Jesus, Joseph took his bride, which is why he chose her as his bride (sorry to offend your man-made sensitivities spiritually blind ' brothers' and 'sisters,' e.g., Roman Catholics, but platonic marriages are a damnable farce, see Matthew 19; according to God they are impermissible, and impossible!!!).  The virgin conception and birth of the Son of God was a one of a kind event never to be repeated, even as Christ's substitutionary atoning sacrifice of himself on the Cross on Calvary was a one time event, and even as only Jesus the Christ, the only begotten Son of God, the Great High Priest can make intercession to God the Father for we sinful people.  Therefore, if you are some poor woman who is purportedly 'married' to some purported 'husband' who has not lain with you though you have been 'married' for months or even Years, as some unbelievably blind, ignorant, and foolish women have; end the sham and charade NOW!  Admit that you let yourself be conned and exploited and defrauded by a sodomite!  Flee from the evil beast now; GET OUT NOW!!!  And actually marry a man, a godly man, or wait until God brings you together with one.  But God forbid you to remain unequally yoked with an exceedingly gross unbeliever, a son of Belial, an abject enemy of God.  I read of one exceedingly foolish woman who had unwittingly been "married" for years to another woman, only to finally discover that her "spouse" had been feigning herself to be male (no there had never been any kind of sexual relations).  Satan the father of all lies, deception, and destruction, has quite an arsenal of wiles to waylay foolish, ignorant people, and cheat them out of God's good and perfect gifts and God's plans for their lives.  If these words are too strong for you or offend you, you may compare God's own words in His Holy Bible, God's words spoken and written by God's prophets in his Holy Word at His command, God's words spoken and written by God's apostles, such as Paul, in the Holy Bible, and God's words spoken and written by later servants of God, such as Martin Luther, and you will see that these words are in fact comparatively mild!

Food for thought (no, not junk food!).  If a previously unmarried man and previously unmarried woman have covenanted with God and with each other to become one for keeps, and have joined together sexually, i.e., the man has cut the covenant by cleaving sexually unto the woman, then they are married!  They are married without witnesses (other than the heavenly cloud of witnesses who do witness their marriage) and without fanfare, without paperwork, without any of the trappings that are supposed to constitute requirements for marriage.  As such, the man & woman are bound, spiritually bound, to be faithful for keeps, for good, for life.  As for Accountability, you ask, God will hold them accountable, you can count on it!

Does this mean that you should marry without public ceremony and fanfare, without wedding gown and tuxedo, without minister and witnesses, without exchange of rings, music, matron of honor & best man, bride's maids & groom's men, reception, festivities...?  Not necessarily, but it means you can, it means you may.  And it means that the trappings associated with being wed, and supposedly requisite to being married, as nice as they may be, are nonetheless extraneous, they are not necessary, they are not essential, to being genuinely joined as one by God for keeps, indeed they are not God-fashioned, but are worldly trappings.  However, Marriage Covenant with each other and with God is absolutely requisite, and cutting the Covenant, i.e., the bridegroom sexually cleaving unto the bride is indispensably essential, it is requisite (no substitutes will do); furthermore, the man & his wife are to contain sexually regularly/frequently, faithfully for life; the wife is not permitted to refuse her husband sexually, nor is the husband permitted to refuse his wife sexually, such refusal is sin!

A formal ceremony conducted by a profane, reprobate, apostate, heretic excuse of a priest, e.g., a sodomite priest, minister, judge, politician...or a brother-or-sister-in-arms who will conduct 'sodomite marriages,' (aka 'same-sex marriages,' 'homosexual marriages,' 'gay marriages,' 'lesbian marriages,'...) is an unbearably outrageous offense and an utterly damnable abomination to God!

The man-concocted, man-centered laws of the USA vary from state to state (contrary to the ways of the Bible), and depending on the state, marriages can be conferred by ministers of any so-called religion or abomination, low-court judges, justices of the peace...even notaries public!  Legal age to marry also varies from state to state, it makes no sense, but, that is the way it is; thank you so much dear founding fathers!

Polygamy and bigamy are illegal, but repeatedly "marrying," divorcing, and "remarrying" is perfectly "legal" throughout the insane, anti-God United States of America.  Polygamy and bigamy are illegal, but committing adultery is acceptable and commonplace.  Polygamy and bigamy are illegal but "swinging," engaging in "wife-swapping," having mistresses and playboys, and having "open-marriages," are OK, acceptable, if ever so slightly avant-garde or european....  Polygamy and bigamy are illegal, but such laws are almost never enforced against those Mormons who continue to engage in polygamy (as long as immorally "arranged" forced so-called "plural marriages" to underage girls are not noticed, and rarely even then).  The "bottom-line" is this, legal, publicly acceptable, commonplace, even "popular" behaviour does not constitute behaviour that is acceptable with GOD; therefore, honour and obey the Lord God Almighty above all else!

There are supposedly something to the tune of 40,000 "plural marriage"/polygamous families currently among Mormons in the USofA.  Those Mormons who practice polygamy are supposedly outside of "mainstream Mormonism"; however, if you so much as scratch the surface of the Mormon so-called "church" you will find that it continues to defend the Mormon practice of polygamy (so-called "plural marriage") which was instituted by Mormon founder Joseph Smith and continued by his successor Brigham Young (as in Brigham Young University - BYU).  Mormon leadership insists that if polygamy/"plural marriage" becomes "necessary" again it will be reinstituted, and hold this over the heads of Mormon women.  "Mainstream" Mormons only discontinued the "sacred" practice of polygamy as a pragmatic expedient in order to enjoy the benefits of Utah being accepted into the Union as a state, after their "prophet" (the one who was alive and in charge at that time) conveniently heard from their evolved "god" Elohim that he had decided they should cease and desist from creating any additional polygamous unions.  Mormonism is not christian, it is a cult fashioned by Satan (as all cults and false religions were)! 

See The Mormons are not Morons, but they are definitely not christians either - the so-called "Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints"

.  Now words regarding adultery and divorce from a couple greats of the faith of yesteryear (I will include an exact quote of Luther's statement, when I find time to look it up).

First, the comparatively milder statement:

"Will anyone deny that the house of the strange woman is 'the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death,' as the Bible says?  Are there not men whose characters have been utterly ruined for this life through this accursed sin?  Are there not wives who would rather sink into their graves than live?  Many a man went with a pure woman to the altar a few years ago and promised to love and cherish her.  Now he has given his affections to some vile harlot and brought ruin on his wife and children!" - Dwight L. Moody

Now, the comparatively stronger statement, albeit not a direct quote but absolutely the gist of what Dr. Martin Luther said:

'Professing christian men who divorced their wives to take other women were damned, they were guilty of committing unforgivable, unpardonable sin, and they were absolutely damned!'

Luther's heartfelt belief, conviction, and preaching concerning the absolute unforgiveability of judgment for men who divorced their wives may err on the side of overstating the case* (but only if the sinning men confess their sin, repent of their sin, and make restitution for it (which becomes extremely complicated after the men have "remarried," and even more so if they have begotten children by the women they have forsaken their wives for...).  But, even if overstated, Dr. Luther's judgment concerning this truly grave sin certainly comes far closer to the truth of God (and is infinitely wiser, safer, and more righteous) than the oh-so-tolerant** contemporary view that readily accepts infidelity, divorce, "remarriage" of the divorcing persons in "churches," and the officially sanctioned so-called "restoration" of "ministers" ( who have divorced their wives to take other women) to positions from which to "minister" their conscience-seared, sin-embracing, sin-promoting other "gospels," which damnably pervades today's American "church!" (due to a dearth of godly christian leaders).

As for those "ministers" who conduct adulterous "remarriages" of those who have committed adultery against their spouses, God's seventh Commandment is "Thou shalt not commit adultery!"  So-called minister, pastors...who conduct/officiate adulterous marriages are guilty of premeditatedly aiding and abetting adultery by deliberately enabling, facilitating, sanctioning, and honoring adultery and pretending to give God's seal of approval to that which He condemns!  These reprobate "ministers" will suffer eternally for their inexcusable trespasses, even if they are "once saved always saved!"

* Matthew 12:31-32  "Wherefore I say unto you, All manner of sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven unto men: but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost shall not be forgiven unto men.  And whosoever speaketh a word against the Son of man it shall be forgiven him: but whosoever speaketh against the Holy Ghost, it shall not be forgiven him, neither in this world, neither in the world to come."

* Revelation 2:20-25  "And I gave her space to repent of her fornication: and she repented not.  Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.  And I will kill her children with death: and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works."

* Hebrews 13:4  "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge."

* Malachi 2:14-16  "Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously; yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.  And did not He make one?  Yet had He the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one?  That He might seek a godly seed.  Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.  For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

** This pseudo-tolerance tolerates willful grave sin committed by the willful sinners, and callously encourages and rewards intolerable sin against deserted wives and children!

Intimate Relations in the Marriage Bed

The roes and the hinds of the field (what has been errantly referred to for so long as "the birds and the bees").

What sexual conduct or practice is acceptable, permissible, lawful, God-intended, God-designed, & God-created to be received with thanksgiving (to God) [according to the Creator of human beings & sexuality, per His Holy Word the Holy Bible]?

Blessing Money Cannot Buy - Theme

boy, i don't know about all the mushy stuff, but it sure beats the yucky stuff, pooey!  and why don't the christian girls like my boss, he's not that bad really, of course he is getting even less good-looking every year, not to mention old and "broken-down"....  oh well, i guess i won't ever get any little friends to play with, since my poor boss isn't getting any closer to getting married, in fact i suppose it's looking positively hopeless...sigh  (no, i'm not his little feller, i'm just a figment of his imagination, but i am a pretty cute figment, don't you think so? :-) home (toc)

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