GOD's Creation of Man

Blessings Money Cannot Buy - Intimate Relations in the Marriage Bed

GOD's best gifts for this life (and hopefully for the Millennial Reign of Christ), which He refers to as good & perfect gifts, are GOD's priceless gifts of marriage & family, the gifts of marriage/romantic love/wedded love/the marriage bed, and the beloved fruit of the womb/babies/children.

The world's prevailing 'wisdom' notwithstanding, I believe that the actual "pleasure" of sexual relations is chiefly emotional & spiritual delight, not physical sensory 'ecstasy' of mythical proportions, and that what physical/sexual/sensual sensations may be and hopefully are experienced and enjoyed in wedded love are in fact relatively mild.  Therefore, since one can and typically does have romantic and sexual desire for various people, and the actual physical/sexual sensations are far less moving, far less satisfying, and far less important than the emotional/spiritual feelings, communion, and bond that marriage was created for and is still meant to encompass (that is/i.e., a covenant commitment for life, for keeps, and for good), if we are truly to enjoy the marriage union that God intended, we should absolutely each choose our marriage partner prayerfully and with the very greatest of care! [The downside to this is that exercising the greatest of care can and may result in a life of singleness, devoid of God's best gifts for this lifetime (and again, perchance also for the Millennial Reign of Christ)! I know whereof I speak.]

But first a cautionary statement, which underscores God's emphasis with regard to sexual relations.

Jeremiah 17:9-10

"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?

I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings."

All persons who foolishly imagine & trust that God the Father & Jesus Christ the Son & the Holy Spirit have changed their standards, i.e., have become more lenient/tolerant/permissive with their standards, such as/e.g., concerning sexual sin, will be in for a truly terrible surprise and come-uppance at the day of judgment!

On the other hand, God is not a prude!  Prudishness is not godliness.  And longstanding laws in the USA, going back hundreds of years, concerning policing sexual relations between husbands and wives were and are shamefully, disgracefully, and inexcusably ignorant, blind, and ruinously contrary to the Word of God, and to the Will of God, though they were purportedly based on God's Holy Word.  These so-called "blue laws" have cast stumblingblocks before God's children, caused God's children offense, and resulted in God's children being alienated from God.  Additionally, the unbiblicalness and anti-biblicalness of these so-called "blue laws" have actually strengthened the hands of sinners who have wickedly chosen to make themselves enemies of God, to persistently rebel against God and His Holy Word and all Righteousness, and to seek to destroy Biblical laws and morality, e.g., God's institution of Holy Matrimony, fear of God, reverence of God, and obedience to God; this is seen particularly with the sodomite activist agenda to pervert American society and culture.

James 1:16-18

Do not err, my beloved brethren.  Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of Lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.  Of His own will begat HE us with the Word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of His creatures.

Romans 10:8-13

But what saith it?  The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth, and in thy heart: that is, the word of faith, which we preach; That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.  For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.  For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on Him shall not be ashamed.  For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon Him.  For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.

The Creator GOD

Genesis 1:26-31

And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat.  And to every beast of the earth, and to every fowl of the air, and to every thing that creepeth upon the earth, wherein there is life, I have given every green herb for meat: and it was so.

And God saw every thing that he had made, and behold, it was very good.  And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.


Genesis 2:18-25

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.  And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Adam Eve

Genesis 5:1-2

This is the book of the generations of Adam.  In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made He him; Male and female created He them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.

Proverbs 5:1-23

My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.

For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.  Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.

Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them.  Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth.

Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house; Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed, And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!

I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.

Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.  Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.  Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with theeLet thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youthLet her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times: and be thou ravished always with her love.

And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?  For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings.  His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.  He shall die without instruction: and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

Malachi 2:10-3:7

Have we not all one father? hath not one God created us? why do we deal treacherously every man against his brother, by profaning the covenant of our fathers?  Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the LORD which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange godThe LORD will cut off the man that doeth this, the master and the scholar, out of the tabernacles of Jacob, and him that offereth an offering unto the LORD of hosts.

And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.  Yet ye say, Wherefore?

Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously; yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.  And did not He make one?  Yet had He the residue of the spirit.  And wherefore one?  That He might seek a godly seed.

Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Ye have wearied the LORD with your words.  Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him?  When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD, and he delighteth in them: or, Where is the God of judgment?

Behold, I will send my messenger, and he shall prepare the way before me, and the LORD, whom ye seek, shall suddenly come to his temple, even the messenger of the covenant, whom ye delight in: behold, he shall come saith the LORD of hosts.

But who may abide the day of his coming? and who shall stand when he appeareth? for he is like a refiner's fire, and like fuller's soap: And he shall sit as a refiner and purifier of silver: and he shall purify the sons of Levi, and purge them as gold and silver, that they may offer unto the LORD an offering in righteousness.

Then shall the offering of Judah and Jerusalem be pleasant unto the LORD, as in the days of old, and as in former years.  And I will come near to you to judgment: and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in his wages, the widow and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger from his right, and fear not me, saith the LORD of hosts.

For I am the LORD, I change not: therefore ye sons of Jacob are not consumed.  Even from the days of your fathers ye are gone away from mine ordinances, and have not kept them.  Return unto me, and I will return unto you saith the LORD of hosts.  But ye said, Wherein shall we return?

Matthew 5:31-32

It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Matthew 7:6

Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.

[There is much, much more on this subject to be found in Proverbs, though such cautionary advice is typically addressed to young men and men, since maidens, young women, and women typically were sheltered, protected, taken care of...in the bad old patriarchal days, unlike during these modern times in which all godly order is undermined, perverted, and overthrown in the name of progress, advancement, liberty, equality, opportunity....]

Matthew 19:3-12

The Pharisees also came unto Him, tempting Him, and saying unto Him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

And He answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.  What therefore GOD hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto Him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.  And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

His disciples say unto Him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

But He said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.  For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake.  He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

For What CauseThis Cause, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him!"

Notice GOD says "I will make him an help meet for him."  God does not say I will make buddies for him, and pals, friends, support groups, prayer circles, clubs, teams...but "an help meet for him!"

For those who state that this scripture does not mean that people have a need for marriage, the fact is GOD plainly, unmistakably states that His solution for man's aloneness, is His provision of marriage with an help meet, a suitable helper, a created, fashioned, prepared spouse, PERIOD!

To those oh-so unwise, oh-so unthankful married people including "authorities" such as ministers and "experts" who are ever anxious to communicate that marriage does not solve anything, certainly not lust or desire for sexual relations, and also to communicate how tough marriage is (I have suffered many of these fools during my lifetime, there are many out there!); I say, you miserable ungrateful wretches, you pervert the right word of God and callously cast stumblingblocks before those less fortunate than yourselves!  I have always been profoundly convinced of the folly of these "experts" et al, but unable to convince those who are subverted by them.

The following scripture is part of a passage concerning the foretold Messiah, but interestingly it speaks to God's provision of marriage for His children.

Isaiah 7:15 "Butter and honey shall he eat, that he may know to refuse the evil, and choose the good."

'Oh brother, oh sister, if you are not totally at peace with your singleness and free from sexual desire or lust, then you should never marry, you are not fit for marriage, you will be miserable in marriage....'  Oh really, you fools, blind guides, and liarsGod does not command His children to abstain from "evil" in a vacuum devoid of "good."  Instead, God commands His children to abstain from sin, from evil, from abomination, and cleave to the good!  God commands His children to choose the good and refuse the evil!  This is a theme throughout His Holy Bible; but if you want to believe the "experts" to your detriment (and that of others), you may.

However, not all of we people have been so blessed as to have the opportunity to receive GOD's good and perfect gift of wedded love in the marriage bed, the reasons vary from person to person; one reason which most especially prevents entering into marriage is failure to meet, become acquainted with, and become friends with, one who truly is a helper meet for you, whom you love and who loves you (I know whereof I speak), and truly this impediment is not an easy one to overcome, especially if you are waiting for GOD's best (despite needing one, any one pleasing to GOD and to you, that GOD would graciously provide).

Not everyone in this adulterous and sinful generation is doing whatever they please, public opinion notwithstanding.

According to JESUS, the men not able to marry (to receive marriage [the uniting of one man and one woman into one flesh]), are those who cannot, and thus will not, become one flesh sexually with a woman via sexual intercourse/coitus/copulation.

According to JESUS, when a man marries a woman, he takes her (sexually)/cleaves unto her (sexually), and they two become one flesh, for God supernaturally joins them together as one!

Matthew 19:17-19

And He said unto him, Why callest thou Me good? there is none good but one, that is, GOD: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments.

He saith unto Him, Which?

JESUS said, Thou shalt do no murder, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

The Creation Touch close-up detail from GOD's Creation of Man

Mark 10:2-12

And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.

And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?

And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.

And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.  But from the beginning of the creation GOD made them male and female.  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife: And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.  What therefore GOD hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.

And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.  And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

Mark 10:19

Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not murder, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother.

Luke 16:18

Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

I Corinthians 6:9-20

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God?  Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.  And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.  Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats, but God shall destroy both it and them.  Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.  And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power.

Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot?  God forbid.

But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.

Flee fornication.  Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

I Corinthians 7:1-16

(This was written by Paul who had " the gift of singleness"! and as you will also please note he repeatedly signals at key points that he is speaking his thoughts, not the Lord's commandments, nor the Lord's Words; this is a most unusual chapter in the Bible, for these reasons; therefore, please handle it/apply it with the greatest of care! and compare it with the full counsel of God, even including the epistles of Paul such as I Timothy 4:1-6

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. (According to Paul who had the gift of singleness and wished that all men had the same gift.  Again, this chapter in which Paul specifically states that he is at certain points in the chapter speaking his own thoughts not the Lord'sPlease balance this carefully with the full counsel of God throughout the Bible and what God shares directly from Jesus the Messiah, which are diametrically contrary to these thoughts of Paul.)

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.  Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband.  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wifeDefraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.  For I would that all men were even as I myself.  (Paul had the gift of singleness, which was not God's will for the vast overwhelming majority of men, much less for all men; Paul's will that all men be devoid of desire for marriage was NOT God's will at all!)  But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.  But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.  (Indeed, how terribly "charitable" of you Paul!)

And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.  And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.  For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.  But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart.  A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.  For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

I Corinthians 7:25-40

Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.

I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.  Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed.  Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.  But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned.  Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.  [This is breathtaking, by stating that men and women who marry are not sinning, he implies that marriage is sinful; the Roman Catholics took this and ran with it.]

But this I say, brethren, the time is short, it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; And they that use this world as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.  But I would have you without carefulness.  He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.  There is difference also between a wife and a virgin.  The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for things of the world, how she may please her husband.  And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.  

(Regrettably, Paul does cast a Very Large Stumblingblock before many a devout believer who does not have the gift of singleness, for whom attending upon the Lord without undue distraction is far easier and safer as a married person than as an unmarried person; people for whom God created, intended, and provided the gift of marriage for, as Jesus attests to.  Paul had blind spots and did a great disservice to these people as he utterly failed to comprehend this.  Even as celibacy is continence for an unmarried person and celibacy is incontinence for a married person, so singleness for a person who does not have the gift of singleness is a bitter and terribly burdensome and mightily distracting unnatural state, whereas singleness for one like Paul was his preferred natural state.  Thus Paul piously subjects multitudes to jeopardy for their eternal souls in order to please his idea of the perfect state of being, i.e., celibacy, contrary to the full counsel, plan, and will of God!)

But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.  (So Paul 'graciously' allows for marriage if the virgin has entered menopause! because children will not be 'in the way.'  Outstanding!)

Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.  So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.  (Again according to whose judgment?  According to PAUL'S!!!)

The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will only in the Lord.  But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.  (Yes, Paul had the Spirit of God, but his judgment in place after place after place after place here in 1 Corinthians 7 is coming forth from the spirit of Paul, not from the Spirit of God; and Paul even admits it, and Paul did not have a spirit like most of us, i.e., not like the overwhelming majority of us, as he had the gift of singleness, which is the exception to the rule.)

I Corinthians 9:3-5

Mine answer to them that do examine me is this, Have we not power to eat and to drink?  Have we not power to lead about a sister, a wife, as well as other apostles, and as the brethren of the Lord, and Cephas?

I Corinthians 10:8

Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.

I Corinthians 11:3, 7-12, 15

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the manFor the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the manNeither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels.  Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.  For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.

But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.

Wedding Vows

Ephesians 4:17- 20

This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind, Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart: Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.  But ye have not so learned Christ

Ephesians 5:3-7

But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.  For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.  Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.  Be not ye therefore partakers with them.

Ephesians 5:14-19

Wherefore he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light.  See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.  Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.  And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;

Wedding Vows

Ephesians 5:20-33

Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that is should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.  He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 

[But unlike Paul, when Jesus Christ quoted this scripture he was Always referring directly to the marriage of a man and woman, not marriage of Christ and the church!]

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

For What CauseThis Cause, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him!"

Question: Did Christ love the church more, or did the church love Christ more?  Then should it not follow that the man should love his wife more than his wife should love him, even as Christ loved the church more than the church loved Him?

Ephesians 6:1-4

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.  Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.  And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Colossians 3:18-23

Let no man beguile you of your reward in a voluntary humility and worshipping of angels, intruding into those things which he hath not seen vainly puffed up by his fleshly mind, And not holding the Head, from which all the body by joints and bands having nourishment ministered, and knit together, increaseth with the increase of God.

Wherefore if ye be dead with Christ from the rudiments of the world, why, as though living in the world, are ye subject to ordinances, (Touch not; taste not; handle not; Which all are to perish with the using;) after the commandments and doctrines of men?  Which things have indeed a shew of wisdom in will worship, and humility, and neglecting of the body; not in any honour to the satisfying of the flesh.

I Timothy 4:1-6

Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils: Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.  For every creature of God is good, and nothing to be refused, if it be received with thanksgiving: For it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.

If thou put the brethren in remembrance of these things, thou shalt be a good minister of Jesus Christ, nourished up in the words of faith and of good doctrine, whereunto thou hast attained.  (AMEN!)

Wedding in Moscow, Russia

Hebrews 13:4

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge.

Regardless what apostate theologians spuriously and heretically claim, this scripture clearly is not stating that adulterous 'marriages' are honorable; they are not, in point of fact in God's sight they are not marriages at all!  This subject is treated in greater depth at the end of this chapter/page.

I Peter 3:1-11

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

Whose adorning, let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel: But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing: knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.  For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.

Romans 1:16-32

For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth: to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.  For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith.  For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them.

For the invisible things of Him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse: Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.  Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools.  And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.

Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever.  Amen.

For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another: men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.

And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient: Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness, full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity: whisperers, Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same but have pleasure in them that do them.

Jude 1:7

Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.

The Revelation of St. John the Divine

Revelation 2:14-16

But I have a few things against thee, because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumblingblock before the children of Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit fornicationSo hast thou also them that hold the doctrine of the Nicolaitans, which thing I hateRepent: or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will fight against them with the sword of my mouth.

Revelation 2:20-25

Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols.

And I gave her space to repent of her fornication: and she repented not.  Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.  And I will kill her children with death: and all the churches shall now that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.

But unto you I say, and unto the rest in Thyatira, as many as have not this doctrine, and which have not known the depths of Satan, as they speak; I will put upon you none other burden.  But that which ye have already hold fast till I come.

Rev. 9:20

And the rest of the men which were not killed by these plagues yet repented not of the works of their hands, that they should not worship devils, and idols of gold, and silver, and brass, and stone, and of wood: which neither can see, nor hear, nor walk: Neither repented they of their murders, nor of their sorceries, nor of their fornication, nor of their thefts.

Rev. 17:4-6

And the woman was arrayed in purple and scarlet colour, and decked with gold and precious stones and pearls, having a golden cup in her hand full of abominations and filthiness of her fornication: And upon her forehead was a name written, MYSTERY, BABYLON THE GREAT, THE MOTHER OF HARLOTS AND ABOMINATIONS OF THE EARTH.

And I saw the woman drunken with the blood of the saints, and with the blood of the martyrs of Jesus.

Rev. 21:7-8

He that overcometh, shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son.

But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.

Rev. 21:27

And there shall in no wise enter into it any thing that defileth, neither whatsoever worketh abomination, or maketh a lie: but they which are written in the Lamb's book of life.

Rev. 22:10-17

And he saith unto me, Seal not the sayings of the prophecy of this book: for the time is at hand.  He that is unjust, let him be unjust still: and he which is filthy, let him be filthy still: and he that is righteous, let him be righteous still: and he that is holy, let him be holy still.

And behold, I come quickly: and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be.  I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, the first and the last.

Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city.  For without are dogs [Sodomites], and sorcerers, and whoremongers, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie.

I Jesus have sent mine angel to testify unto you these things in the churches, I am the root and the offspring of David, and the bright and morning star.

And the Spirit and the bride say, Come.  And let him that heareth say, Come.  And let him that is athirst come.  And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.

Ed's Summary of John 2:1-11 - At a wedding in Cana of Galilee, Jesus spares a bridegroom (who is poor in material goods & unable to furnish his wedding feast with adequate wine...for the guests) from suffering embarrassment and shame, and blesses him, by turning water into abundant wine for all present to drink (the wine he miraculously created was the best wine, unlike that which had already been consumed).  Thus, Jesus of Nazareth, the Messiah, the Christ, manifested forth his glory with this, the beginning of Miracles.  An incredible beginning of miracles for Jesus the Messiah to commence His ministry with, don't you agree?  Creating wine from water for a wedding party to enjoy, thus sparing the reputation of a new bridegroom on his wedding day, and thus blessing the bridegroom and bride and their wedding and marriage.

Please do not get too touchy about the things I am about to share with you.

The Creation Touch close-up detail from GOD's Creation of Man

.  Now for a treat that you may not have been looking for.  This letter is directed to any and all unmarried christian women who have decided that singleness is for them, i.e., that they should not marry, that they can be more pleasing to God by remaining unmarried than by marrying...that they can perform a greater service to God the Father and Jesus the Son, by refusing marriage with the men they were created for (even as Eve was created for Adam).

Everyone is free to live their own life as they are granted temporal liberty to do (if they are so fortunate), and we all are individuals, yes even identical twins are unique individuals.  I realize you ladies may not have met men that were acceptable to you, or that you felt were truly God's best, or were God's choice or God's will for you, or conversely, perhaps men that you have felt were right for you have not felt that way about you or were unwilling to marry you.  These are certainly legitimate reasons for not having married yet (and frankly can plague one for a lifetime), and should in truth keep one from marrying until one has opportunity to marry "the right one" or "a right one."

But dear ladies please hear me, as one that is called to be a faithful steward of God's Word, and one who has always desired the same blessings for others, as he has desired for himself.  By all means marry men who are youthful, big, strong, handsome, robustly healthy, full of life, flourishing, and thriving, but hopefully who are also noble, honourable, faithful, courageous, industrious, sober and not devoid of godly wisdom, as your safety in this unsafe world will in some measure depend on your choice of husband.  Big boys whose chief qualities are being in love with life, enthusiastic, optimistic, positive, upbeat, supremely self-confident, happy-go-lucky, fun-loving, carefree, prosperous, and successful, are fellows who have no understanding of the times in which we live, but they typically are the first selected by marriageable women.  [Ed's Note: prosperity and worldly success are routinely not linked to industry, but frequently are linked to deception, dishonesty, dishonour, shallowness, selfishness, self-service, greed, covetousness, and lust....]

And lest you should be tempted to view the following treatise as too "man-centered," please consider it sincerely in light of the following scripture which was breathed by God's Holy Spirit of Truth:

I Corinthians 11:9  "Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man."

God did not create us to abstain from sexual sin in a vacuum, i.e., with no provision for the fulfillment of our natural, and God-breathed, God-designed sexual desires, NO!

God has commanded us to receive the good and refuse the evil!

God instructs us that by receiving the good, we will know to refuse the evil!

Isaiah 7:15

Butter and honey shall he eat, that he may know to refuse the evil, and choose the good.

Proverbs 27:7

"The full soul loatheth an honeycomb; but to the hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet."

{A man who is perpetually satiated with his bride's sexual affections will refuse the charms of other women, but a man who is denied the sexual affections of the woman who should be his bride (or is his bride) will perpetually be in grave jeopardy of falling into sexual sin with sinful women.}

Proverbs 24:13

"My son, eat thou honey, because it is good; and the honeycomb, which is sweet to thy taste."

{One honey, and one honeycomb!}

Proverbs 25:16

"Hast thou found honey? eat so much as is sufficient for thee, lest thou be filled therewith, and vomit it."

{One honey, and one honeycomb; not more than one honey, nor more than one honeycomb!}

Proverbs 25:27

"It is not good to eat much honey;"

{Not more than one honey, nor more than one honeycomb!}

[How hopelessly childish and foolish you may think, or may say; but No, what the world and the worldly ministers teach and practice is worse than infantile and foolish, it is rebelliously wicked.]

There are fools (or worse) out there calling themselves Bible teachers who teach christian single women that christian men must overcome all sexual desire, i.e., lust, before they can marry; God teaches no such thing, and not even Paul speaking by the Holy Ghost teaches any such thing, in fact Martin Luther taught that sexual lust impels man to seek marriage!

Martin Luther was right; and F.B. Meyer was right (right up to his last two sentences) when he wrote the following:

"The seabirds do not roam the acres of sparkling wavelets in vain; nor in vain do the young lions roar after their food.  The babe does not cry for sustenance that is not stored for it or the youth demand the love the maiden cannot give.  It were rather a devil who should make the appetite without providing means for its satisfactionBut our God creates the desire that He may give it realization.  The very desire is blessed.  As we desire, we possess."

God created the desire for sexual union and marriage in Adam, and further awakened Adam to that desire and need prior to causing Adam to sleep only for the purpose of performing the surgery and awaking Adam from the surgery to find the perfectly created fulfillment of his desire and need.  Unworthy teachers teach all manner of disastrously ruinous folly, casting stumblingblocks before God's children, including: that men and women must die to their desire for sexual union and marriage if God is to ever provide for their need; that men and women must renounce all right to sexual union and marriage, if God is to ever provide for their need (even Paul denounced such heresy!); i.e., the lie that sexual union and marriage are non-essential desires not needs....  The pity is that those who teach such harmful error and heresy succeed in causing those who are of tender consciences and sensibilities, unenlightened regarding God's Word and truth, and overly influenced by self-important "teachers" into being cheated out of God's good and perfect gifts and/or falling into sin.

Dear Ladies, please hear me out:

1) GOD did create you for some man, unless you have the gift of singleness, i.e., unless you have no desire whatever for marriage - for romantic love, for wedded love, for the marriage bed, for sexual union with your husband to be.

Your still being single does Not mean that you have the gift of singleness, contrary to what some married 'experts' on singleness damnably teach!!!  Jesus said in Matthew 19, "He that is able to receive it, let him receive it."  This means that those men who are unmarried and sexually able to take a wife should do so (and I would if I could ever meet the right woman, and persuade her).  Whereas, those comparatively few persons who have the gift of singleness do not desire to receive it, i.e., they do not desire to receive marriage/wedded love/sexual union.  Please do not be deceived by purported 'experts,' who foolishly, callously, blindly cast stumbling blocks before God's children, causing them to miss out on what God created for them to receive, and worst of all putting them at jeopardy daily and nightly of dying in sin alienated from God and suffering eternal damnation!  Ladies think what you will of me, but I care for your eternal souls and for your lives now; and it bears stating again, I have always desired the same good and perfect gifts for others that I have desired for myself.

2) Whoever the man is that GOD created you for, that man needs you, more than you know.  You may not have a burning desire for marriage, but that does not mean the man does not, and he may have been struggling with such desire for a long time.  It is an enormous struggle, temptation, vulnerability, disappointment, discouragement, and deprivation of abundant life for a man who was created to receive marriage to go on year after year, decade after decade with no sweetheart, no lover, no spouse, no bride, no helpmeet, no wife (I know whereof I speak).

3) Even if you imagine you do not need him, he does need you, very much, and is in unnecessary jeopardy without you!  He needs you to love and to be loved by.  He needs you if he is not to be tempted above that he is able to withstand.  He needs you if he is to be able to flee temptation and contain acceptably in the marriage bed with one spouse for life, with the one spouse God created to be his provision, his mate for life.  He needs you in order to be content with his one beloved bride.  He needs you if he is to be safe from sexual immorality during these most seductive of times, and thus if he is to be used mightily by GOD.  He needs you if he is to realize his desire for his beloved bride, for all that she is that he is not, for all that GOD created her to be for him, e.g., sweetheart, lover, spouse, helpmeet, best friend, encourager, emotional supporter, confidante, One Flesh, bone of his bones, and flesh of his flesh....

4) The time is short, and this time is the most intensely Satanic of all times, prior to Satan's ultimate (but short-lived) world takeover.  GOD created marriage "to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth," not to be abstained from, nor to be refused.  GOD's good and perfect gift of marriage is for this lifetime and perhaps for the millennial reign (I dearly hope so), but regrettably is not for Heaven/Eternity.  You can choose to refuse GOD's gift, and to cheat the man GOD created you for out of GOD's good and perfect provision for him, which he needs during this lifetime, but do not deceive yourself into thinking that this is especially praiseworthy, or pleasing to God, nor especially worthy service to God, for it is not!  It is not more praiseworthy to avoid what GOD intended you for, and intended for you, than to submit to his will is it?  Singleness is not more holy than marriage!   Prudishness is not next to godliness!  GOD is not a prude!  And additionally, each of us will be single for all of eternity, that will commence soon enough!

5) If you want the man GOD created you for to miss out on you, to miss out on your love, your beauty, your affection, your company, you may so choose, i.e., you are free to choose badly, but choose carefully, thoughtfully, prayerfully please, according to what is best for GOD, for you, and for the man whom GOD created you for, and created for you, and remember that man needs you.

6) If you want the man GOD created you for to struggle with singleness, having no beloved bride, as he waits for his 'true love' GOD's best for him, you may choose to psuedo-piously refuse him; the less holy men haven't been waiting have they?

7) If you want the man GOD created you for to fall into sin, and/or to marry the wrong woman, perhaps even an enemy of his soul, you may psuedo-piously refuse him; but perhaps in this regard you should consider whether you are in some measure that man's keeper, if GOD created you for him, created you for him to cleave unto, created you to love him and to help him...or whether you are to choose to resist GOD's will, and refuse the man GOD created you for, as so many resist GOD's will and refuse the Lord Jesus we were created for.  Am I asking you to saddle yourself with false guilt, NO; but consider whether your man needs you (and whether you are truly most pleasingly, obediently serving the LORD by refusing him, or whether you are perhaps refusing to submit to God, by refusing the man He created you for).

8) If you want that man to be his best, and to do his best for the Lord, then perhaps you should reconsider what you are doing with your life, and whether it is what the Lord really wants of you, whether it is really your highest service to GOD after all!

9) If you have not been created for a man, if you have been given the gift of singleness, not merely unstirred sexual desire, untapped sexual response, unwetted sexual appetite, but have literally been given the gift of singleness, i.e., sexual non-desire (not a traumatic reaction resulting from rape...), or if the man you were created for has been killed, or given in marriage to another woman, then perhaps, and I do mean perhaps singleness is for you; but still consider, even if the man for you has been tragically killed or has died prematurely, or has married some other woman, there may be another godly man who needs you, a man who has been deprived of the woman God created for him, whether by her death or her marriage to some other man, and thus perhaps GOD would have you to be given in marriage to such a man, a man who needs a woman like you to marry, and love, and be loved by.

10) Ladies, regarding your marrying "the right man for you," "the best man for you," "Mr. Right!"; "the right man for you," "the best man for you," "Mr. Right," is the man whom God in His wisdom created you for, not to be confused with men who may claim that God told them you are supposed to marry them (this particularly ruinous scam is prevalent in Bible Schools and multitudes of unwise young christian women fall for it, after all it is so "spiritual" isn't it; multitudes, i.e., approximately 33.3% of these same young women also are divorced within three years time!).  If the man is the one God created you for, there will be attraction to him (perchance even if he is as old and broken down as I now am, by way of an extreme example), and there will be other indicators from God that the man is the one God intended you for (not the man telling you that God purportedly told him that you are supposed to marry him!).

Is marriage always wonderful, or always good, or always of GOD, heavens NO!  On the other hand, is marriage (intended by GOD, designed by GOD, created by GOD, arranged by GOD), deserving of being spurned, dismissed as being below or unworthy of we people, or thought lightly of, No! and don't fool yourself into imagining that GOD thinks His most valuable gift for this life is unworthy of you.

Additionally (contrary to what is so often communicated), marriage was not created specifically for the best of times, but truly for the worst of times too, marriage was not intended only to be the frosting on the cake, but to be the cake; even as sexual union in the marriage bed was intended to be a daily/nightly meal/feast/respite/vacation/blessing.

Going through the tribulation will not be easier unmarried than married, it really will not!  GOD bless you ladies now and always.

Dear Ladies, your heavenly Father knew what was best for you when He created you, and feminist dogma notwithstanding, your best interests are served by agreeing with His Word and will for you, and not being seduced by satanically crafted feminist lies, deceptions, and delusion (which have pervaded the churches).

May God keep you from evil, and bless you exceeding abundantly above all that you can ask, or think, or imagine; and may He bless each of you with marriage and wedded love with the man that He created you for, or whom He now intends you for, and whom is not coincidentally also the best man for you.


Brad Thomas, aka CBM's Editor, "Ed."

Blessings, Numbers 6:24-27

Proverbs 30:18-19

"There be three things which are too wonderful for me, yea, four which I know not: The way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent upon a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and the way of a man with a maid."

Jewish Wedding, but according to man's tradition, like Fiddler on the Roof

A nice wedding ceremony right?  Perhaps; but joyfully festive for sure.

What constitutes marriage, and what does not constitute marriage?

No doubt more than a few will have difficulty with this answer to the question of what constitutes marriage, and what does not constitute marriage, but the truth is from God's Word, not from corrupt man.

A nice ceremony does not make a man and woman married, no matter how purportedly 'official' the ceremony is.  The 'authority' vested in ministers (or Justices of the Peace, or Notary Publics...) by states (or in Airline Pilots in flight, or in Ship's Captains at sea) does not truly confer married status upon anyone.  A government approved marriage license and certificate does not make anyone married, anymore than a government approved divorce decree makes any married man & woman cease to be married!  [Surprise!]

Going through the motions of state-sanctioned and reprobate-minister-officiated "marriage" ceremonies, does not join adulterers (and people who have given themselves over to whoredom), in anything other than coldly calculated, premeditated sin and condemnation!

Since governments and man-made laws can not truly join a man & woman in one flesh and spirit in marriage, how can a man and woman be joined as one in holy marriage?

Adam and Eve were wed, without ceremony, without a minister, without bridesmaids, without documentation, without identification, without a blood test, without witnesses other than God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Ghost, who created them in their image, and the additional witness of the Heavenly Host; and furthermore, they were wed without an introduction and without so much as becoming acquainted prior to becoming husband and wife!  How could such a thing be, especially seeing as they were the first married couple, and thus provided the original precedent for all marriages to follow?  God even saw to it that Adam was able to nakedly examine Eve before he claimed her for his bride (and she him)!  God gave Adam clear direction that Eve was the woman, the mate for him, Adam did not require more than that to claim the bride provided for him by God, and Eve lovingly received her husband at his immediate naked advance.

Isaac and Rebekah were wed without anything more than her acceptance of Abraham's offer of marriage to his son Isaac, initially  presented by Abraham's servant to Rebekah's father Bethuel and her brother Laban (the next day presented as an ultimatum to Rebekah by her family [after they had already given Abraham's servant permission the day before to take her to Abraham's son Isaac to be his wife]), and the acceptance of wedding gifts given to Rebekah and her family, and requisitely Isaac's act of taking Rebekah to him to wife.  The same evening that she arrived via caravan Isaac took Rebekah into the tent (his deceased mother's tent) and clave unto Rebekah, cutting the covenant, the marriage covenant with her, under God, by sexually deflowering her.  But how could God approve of anything as unromantic and intemperate, as passionate and lustful, as this?  The answer is simple really (prevailing wisdom notwithstanding), God is not a prude, and this biblical pattern of marriage-union was good enough for God the Father, God the Son (Jesus), & God the Holy Ghost to design, invent, create, inspire, accept, and give their approval of, calling it very good!  As for those who are holier than God, holier than Jesus...oh well, you can follow their instructions if you care to.

States, governments, religious institutions...do not have a right to join people in marriage, nor are able to; much less to put asunder those whom God has joined in marriage, whether by performing 'divorces,' or proclaiming "annulments!"  [Let me emphasize this again - Religious groups, sects, orders, hierarchies, rulers, and leaders cannot "annul" marriagesGod forbids them to do so!  "What God hath joined together, let not man put asunder!"]  Governments, bureaucrats, and religious hierarchical rulers do not have authority, power, stature, nor standing to join people in marriage (nor to end marriages), and in truth governments only have authority delegated to them, they cannot legitimately 'create' powers, which does not deter them from incessantly and monstrously attempting to, and claiming to.

What actually joins a man and woman in marriage is for a man and woman to covenant with God to become one in His sight, under Him, in submission to Him, for keeps.  A 'covenant' which God is not the principal party to is not a covenant at all; a 'covenant' which excludes God, is not a covenant, no matter how official and religious and fancy it may appear to be.  A 'covenant' which God forbids, can not be a covenant!  A 'covenant' which God does not enter into, is not a covenant!

Additionally, if there is no cutting of the covenant ( i.e., no consummation of marriage, no union by sexual intercourse/coitus/copulation), there is no oneness of man and woman.  The man and woman may be betrothed, but without sexual union the man and woman do not become one.  Furthermore, if the man is a man and not a fraud (i.e., not a sodomite...), he will consummate his marriage immediately, i.e., the day/night of his wedding.  If he does not consummate his marriage, he is not married.  Joseph the betrothed husband of Mary the mother of Jesus, deferred conjugal love, sexual union with his betrothed bride only because she was with child by the Holy Ghost.  Once she had given birth to Jesus, Joseph took his bride, which is why he chose her as his bride!  So-called platonic marriages are a damnable pagan farce, see Matthew 19; according to God they are impermissible, and utterly impossible!!!  The virgin conception and birth of the Son of God was a one of a kind event never to be repeated, even as Christ's substitutionary atoning sacrifice of Himself on the Cross on Calvary was a one time event, even as only Jesus the Christ, the only begotten Son of God, the Great High Priest can make intercession to God the Father for we sinful people.  Therefore, if you are some poor woman who is purportedly 'married' to some purported 'husband' who has not claven to you though you have been 'married' for months or even Years, as has been the case for some unbelievably blind, ignorant, and foolish women; end the perverse fraud, sham, charade, and damnable lie NOW!  Admit that you let yourself be conned and exploited and defrauded by a sodomite!  Flee from the evil beast now; GET OUT NOW!!!  And actually marry a man, a godly man, or wait until God brings you together with one.  But God forbid you to remain unequally yoked with an exceedingly gross unbeliever, a son of Belial, an abject enemy of God.  I read of one exceedingly foolish woman who had unwittingly been "married" for years to another woman, only to finally discover that her "spouse" had been feigning herself to be male (no there had never been any kind of sexual relations).  Satan the father of all lies, deception, and destruction, has quite an arsenal of wiles to waylay foolish, ignorant people, and cheat them out of God's good and perfect gifts and God's plans for their lives.  If these words are too strong for you or offend you, you may compare God's own words in His Holy Bible, God's words spoken and written by God's prophets in his Holy Word at His command, God's words spoken and written by God's apostles, such as Paul, in the Holy Bible, and God's words spoken and written by later servants of God, such as Martin Luther, and you will see that my words are in fact comparatively mild!

Food for thought (no, not junk food!).  If a previously unmarried man and previously unmarried woman have covenanted with God and with each other to become one for keeps, and have joined together sexually, i.e., the man has cut the covenant by cleaving sexually unto the woman, then they are married!  They are married without witnesses (other than the heavenly cloud of witnesses who do witness their marriage) and without fanfare, without paperwork, without any of the trappings that are supposed to constitute requirements for marriage.  As such, the man & woman are bound, spiritually bound, to be faithful for keeps, for good, for life.  And as for Accountability, God will hold them accountable, you can count on it.

Does this mean that you should marry without families in attendance, without public ceremony and fanfare, without wedding gown and tuxedo, without minister and witnesses, without exchange of rings, music, matron of honor & best man, bride's maids & groom's men, reception, festivities...?  No, but it means you can, it means you may.  And it means that the trappings associated with being wed, and supposedly requisite to being married, as nice as they may be, are nonetheless extraneous, they are not necessary, they are not essential, to being genuinely joined as one by God for keeps, indeed they are not God-fashioned, but are worldly trappings.  However, Marriage Covenant with each other and with God is absolutely requisite, and cutting the Covenant, i.e., the bridegroom sexually cleaving unto the bride is indispensably essential, it is requisite (no substitutes will do); furthermore, the man & his wife are to contain sexually regularly/frequently, faithfully for life; the wife is not permitted to refuse her husband sexually, nor is the husband permitted to refuse his wife sexually, such refusal is sin (unless there is a genuine physical/medical issue temporarily preventing such union).  If a wife finds sexual intercourse (i.e., vaginal intercourse) is uncomfortable, the answer is NOT to abstain from sexual relations for the duration of her marriage!  The answer is to rule out physiological ailments, and to approach sexual relations gently, lovingly, regularly.

A formal ceremony conducted by a profane, reprobate, apostate, heretic excuse of a priest, pastor, or minister, e.g., a sodomite priest or a brother in arms who will conduct fictitious 'sodomite marriages,' (aka 'homosexual marriages,' 'gay marriages,' 'lesbian marriages,'...) is an unbearably outrageous offense and an utterly damnable abomination to God, and they will suffer eternally accordingly.

The profane man-centered laws of the USA vary from state to state (contrary to the ways of the Bible), and depending on the state, marriages can be conferred by ministers of any so-called religion, cult, or abomination, low-court judges, justices of the peace...even notaries public!  Legal age to marry also varies from state to state, it makes no sense, but, that is the way it is; thank you so much dear founding fathers!

Polygamy and bigamy are illegal, but repeatedly "marrying," divorcing, and "remarrying" is perfectly "legal" throughout the insane, anti-God United States of America.  Polygamy and bigamy are illegal, but committing adultery is acceptable and commonplace.  Polygamy and bigamy are illegal but "swinging," engaging in "wife-swapping," having mistresses and playboys, and having "open-marriages," are OK, acceptable, if ever so slightly avant-garde or european....  Polygamy and bigamy are illegal, but such laws are almost never enforced against those Mormons who continue to engage in polygamy (as long as immorally "arranged" forced so-called "plural marriages" to underage girls are not noticed, and rarely even then).  The "bottom-line" is this, legal, publicly acceptable, commonplace, even "popular" behaviour does not constitute behaviour that is acceptable with GOD; therefore, honour and obey the Lord God Almighty above all else!

There are supposedly something to the tune of 40,000 "plural marriage"/polygamous families currently among Mormons in the USofA.  Those Mormons who practice polygamy are supposedly outside of "mainstream Mormonism"; however, if you so much as scratch the surface of the Mormon so-called "church" you will find that it continues to defend the Mormon practice of polygamy (so-called "plural marriage") which was instituted by Mormon founder Joseph Smith and continued by his successor Brigham Young (as in Brigham Young University - BYU).  Mormon leadership insists that if polygamy/"plural marriage" becomes "necessary" again it will be reinstituted, and hold this over the heads of Mormon women.  "Mainstream" Mormons only discontinued the "sacred" practice of polygamy as a pragmatic expedient in order to enjoy the benefits of Utah being accepted into the Union as a state, after their "prophet" (the one who was alive and in charge at that time) conveniently heard from their evolved "god" Elohim that he had decided they should cease and desist from creating any additional polygamous unions.  Mormonism is not christian, it is a cult fashioned by Satan (as all cults and false religions were)!  

See The Mormons are not Morons, but they are definitely not christians either - the so-called "Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints"

.  Now a few words regarding adultery and divorce from a couple greats of the faith of yesteryear (I will include an exact quote of Luther's statement in due time).

First, the comparatively milder statement:

"Will anyone deny that the house of the strange woman is 'the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death,' as the Bible says?  Are there not men whose characters have been utterly ruined for this life through this accursed sin?  Are there not wives who would rather sink into their graves than live?  Many a man went with a pure woman to the altar a few years ago and promised to love and cherish her.  Now he has given his affections to some vile harlot and brought ruin on his wife and children!" - Dwight L. Moody

Now, the comparatively stronger statement, albeit not a direct quote but the gist of what Dr. Martin Luther said:

'Professing christian men who divorced their wives to take other women were damned, they were guilty of committing unforgivable, unpardonable sin, and they were absolutely damned!'

Luther's heartfelt belief, conviction, and preaching concerning the absolute unforgiveability of judgment for men who divorced their wives may err on the side of overstating the case* (but only if the sinning men confess their sin, repent of their sin, and make restitution for it (which becomes extremely complicated after the men have "remarried," and even more so if they have begotten children by the women they have forsaken their wives for...and if they have infected their wives with disease resulting from their adultery).  But, even if overstated, Dr. Luther's judgment concerning this truly grave sin certainly comes far closer to the truth of God (and is infinitely wiser, safer, and more righteous) than the oh-so tolerant** contemporary view that readily accepts infidelity, divorce, "remarriage" of the adulterers in "churches," and the officially sanctioned so-called "restoration" of "ministers" (who have divorced their wives to take other women) to positions from which to "minister" their conscience-seared, sin-embracing, sin-promoting other "gospels" which damnably pervades today's American "church!" (due to a dearth of godly christian leaders).

As for those "ministers" who conduct adulterous "remarriages" of those who have committed adultery against their spouses, God's seventh Commandment is "Thou shalt not commit adultery!"  So-called minister, pastors...who conduct/officiate adulterous marriages are guilty of premeditatedly aiding and abetting adultery by deliberately enabling, facilitating, sanctioning, and honoring adultery and pretending to give God's seal of approval to that which He condemns!  These reprobate "ministers" will suffer eternally for their inexcusable trespasses, even if they are "once saved, always saved!"

* Matthew 12:31-32  "Wherefore I say unto you, All manner of sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven unto men: but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost shall not be forgiven unto men.  And whosoever speaketh a word against the Son of man it shall be forgiven him: but whosoever speaketh against the Holy Ghost, it shall not be forgiven him, neither in this world, neither in the world to come."

* Revelation 2:20-25  "And I gave her space to repent of her fornication: and she repented not.  Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.  And I will kill her children with death: and all the churches shall know that I am He which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works."

* Hebrews 13:4  "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge."

* Malachi 2:14-16  "Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously; yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.  And did not He make one?  Yet had He the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one?  That He might seek a godly seed.  Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youthFor the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that He hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

** This pseudo-tolerance tolerates willful grave sin committed by the willful sinners, and callously encourages and rewards intolerable sin against deserted wives and children!

The roes and the hinds of the field (what has errantly been referred to for so long as "the birds and the bees").

Per His authoritative Word - the Holy Bible, according to the Creator of human beings & sexuality, what sexual conduct or practices were and are intended, requisite, and in fact mandatory in marriage (understanding that sexual relations outside of marriage are sin)?

All-importantly, what sexual conduct is absolutely acceptable; that is (i.e.), what is the sum of absolutely acceptable sexual relations in the marriage bed?

No doubt more than a few people will disagree with the answers to the question of what constitutes absolutely acceptable sexual relations, conduct, or practice within marriage, but these answers are true according to God's Word, the Holy Bible, and not based on the errant word of well-meaning man or woman.

Mandatory, yes mandatory, sexual practices in the marriage bed, that is, within marriage, consist of the following:

1) Totally naked knowledge of each other: seeing, touching, tasting, handling, and lovingly using each other's body naturally.  [Genesis 2:25; 3:10-11.]

2) The man cleaving unto the woman, the natural use of the woman: sexual intercourse/coitus/copulation, now commonly referred to as vaginal intercourse.* [Genesis 1:26-28, 1:31, 2:18, 2:21-25, 3:12Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12Mark 10:2-12I Corinthians 7:2-5, 11:8-9, 11:11-12Ephesians 5:31, 5:33.]

3) Man and woman, husband and wife, attending to pleasuring each other/satisfying each other.  [I Corinthians 7:2-5; 11:8-9, 11:11-12Ephesians 5:20-25, 5:28-31, 5:33.]

4) Continence: in marriage continence is containing sexually with one's spouse, not refraining from sexual union, not refusing sexual union.  [I Corinthians 7:2-5; 11:8-9, 11:11-12Ephesians 5:20-25, 5:28-31, 5:33.]

5) Sexual faithfulness/fidelity: sexual relations only with one's spouse!  [Genesis 1:26-28; 2:18, 2:21-25; 3:16-17, 3:20-24; 4:1, 4:25; 5:1-2Malachi 2:14-16Matthew 5:31-32; 19:3-12, 19:17-19Mark 10:2-12, 10:19Luke 16:18Ephesians 5:31, 5:33.]

6) Romantic faithfulness/fidelity: romantic relations only with one's spouse.  [Genesis 1:26-28; 2:18, 2:21-25; 3:16-17, 3:20-24; 4:1, 4:25; 5:1-2Malachi 2:14-16Matthew 5:31-32; 19:3-12, 19:17-19Mark 10:2-12, 10:19Luke 16:18Ephesians 5:31, 5:33.]

All professing christians should readily admit the scripturalness of sexual intercourse; yet, unbelievably, some do not, i.e., some professing christians deny the scripturalness of sexual intercourse!  Denying the scripturalness of sexual intercourse, aka vaginal intercourse, is unimaginably and inexcusably blind, ignorant, and ruinous; ironically, prudery and prudishness are from the same source as immorality, indecency, and perversion are from, none other than from Satan the father of lies who came only to steal, murder, and destroy; to seduce, corrupt, and pervert the right ways of the LORD!

Some professing christians who agree with the scripturalness of sexual intercourse claim that the ONLY legitimate or scriptural reason or purpose for sexual intercourse is for procreation, diametrically contrary to scripture and faith; this is a lie concocted by Satan, and promoted by professing christians including christian teachers.  This lie is sometimes embraced and promoted by women who are insecure regarding their attractiveness, foolishly as a means to try to keep their husbands from straying [I have first-hand knowledge of this, I have personally witnessed this].  Again, God stated that it was not good for man to be alone, that He would create a help-meet for man, that in the beginning He created man, male and female created He them, that for this cause a man should leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, and they would become one flesh....  Those who deny the scripturalness of sexual oneness with or without conception do so contrary to God's Word, will, & creative purpose, and do so for selfish reasons; they aid & abet Satan's efforts to away with marriages that have not produced children, such as Abraham's & Sarah's marriage, while they were Abram & Sarai (before God miraculously gave her conception when she was a very old woman, 89 years of age); Isaac's & Rebekah's marriage before God finally miraculously gave her conception (after 20 years of marriage); Jacob's & Rachel's marriage before God finally miraculously gave her conception; and the list goes on and on and on....up to and including the New Testament with Zachariah's & Elizabeth's marriage before God finally miraculously gave her conception when she was an old woman.

All professing christians should admit the scripturalness of enjoying seeing, smelling, touching, and feeling all of one's spouse's naked body, and tasting, kissing of one's spouse's face, breasts, and upper body; but, amazingly by no means do all professing christians admit such clearly scriptural sexual practice.

* The change in name from sexual intercourse to vaginal intercourse is a subtil/subtle one indeed, it is part of the lie that oral loveplay is "oral sexual intercourse," aka "oral sex"; and that anal penetration which God never intended, nor designed, and which is contrary to His plan and His will for male & female, is "anal intercourse," and thus to make all of these acts equal!  It is all involved in the propaganda war to pervert our minds, spirits, marriages, and lives, but especially those of the young. 

* The sentences, paragraphs, pages, and/or branches/sub-directories noted by multiple asterisks*** following and/or preceding their names are deemed to include material per the editor's imperfect judgment, and as such do not claim to infallibly represent GOD's perfect wisdom, knowledge, nor understanding; but rather the editor's limited 'vision' and understanding of GOD's Word (these are not to be confused with explanatory notes, sentences, and/or paragraphs marked by asterisks* sprinkled throughout the website which serve to expand upon and explain previous references marked by asterisks*; perchance I will develop a better method in the future). Imperfections contained within this website are due to the imperfections of myself, Brad Thomas, aka CBM's editor, "Ed." 

No doubt more than a few people will disagree with the answers to the question of what constitutes absolutely acceptable (and in fact mandatory) sexual relations, conduct, or practice within marriage, but the answers are true according to God's Word, the Holy Bible.

As for the answers regarding what sexual actions are unmistakably utterly forbidden, there should be agreement among all peoples and especially among christians.

But as for the answers regarding what other sexual conduct within marriage may be acceptable or permissible, no doubt a great many more people will disagree with what I have to share; this is an area which should be viewed as subjective.***  To quote Paul, "I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful."  However, as noted previously, what Paul stated after these words was nothing short of ruinously errant; hopefully what I am about to share will not be.

The Song of Solomon, also known as the Song of Songs - the poetic Song of Solomon has been interpreted in many poetic ways, such as allegedly being an epic love story of Solomon and one of his myriad wives (i.e., of King Solomon and one of the multitude of babes in his harem), or of being the ultimate love story of Jesus the Christ and his Bride; but the Song of Solomon, which certainly features an enthusiastically earthy sexual relationship between Solomon and one of his wives is included herein specifically for what it has to say concerning sexual relations, i.e., acceptable sexual relations, i.e., sexual relations between a man and his wife, not between a man and a harem!  It is Not included as an epic tale of love, No!  Solomon may have been a 'great' "lover," but he was certainly not one who loved greatly; this is not a great love story, but rather, I believe, is an account that the Lord included in His Word for the express purpose of graphically, albeit poetically, describing sexual relations, so that men and women might be helped thereby, to enjoy sexual love to the full (the actual physical/sexual sensations of which I believe are in truth relatively mild, very far from mythical "ecstasy," irrespective of the intensity of sexual desire).  I believe the Song of Solomon might 'unpoetically' be termed "Sexuality 101," for though the book is a poetic ode to sexual love, it is also somewhat akin to an instruction manual.  The entire book of the Song of Solomon is included here for those who would like to glean all that the book has to offer; and/or who would care to take issue with the perhaps-too-simple sexual interpretation given here.  If you choose to read more into the Song of Solomon than is really there (i.e., via allegories...), or try to make it say what you want it to say, that is up to you.

[Like his father Solomon before him, Roboam/Rehoboam, who succeeded his father as King of Judah (though not of Israel), may have been a 'great' "lover," but he certainly was not one who loved greatly, as is seen from this passage in II Chronicles 11:18-23  "And Rehoboam took him Mahalath the daughter of Jerimoth the son of David to wife, and Abihail the daughter of Eliab the son of Jesse; Which bare him children; Jeush, and Shamariah, and Zaham.  And after her he took Maachah the daughter of Absalom; which bare him Abijah, and Attai, and Ziza, and Shelomith.  And Rehoboam loved Maachah the daughter of Absalom above all his wives and his concubines: (for he took eighteen wives, and threescore concubines; and begat twenty and eight sons, and threescore daughters.)  And Rehoboam made Abijah the son of Maachah the chief, to be ruler among his brethren: for he thought to make him king.  And he dealt wisely, and dispersed of all his children throughout all the countries of Judah and Benjamin, unto every fenced city: and he gave them victual in abundance.  And he desired many wives." (Yes, he desired many more wives & women, even after "loving" Maachah above all his other wives and concubines.)]

For the time-being the sections on what other sexual conduct within marriage may be acceptable; and what sexual actions are absolutely, unmistakably, utterly forbidden, are addressed in relative proximity to each other for reasons you shall see.  As time permits I will re-write this section of this page so that it is organized more simply and clearly.

What sexual conduct or practices within marriage may be acceptable or permissible?

The only other sexual loveplay or sexplay in the marriage bed, that is, within marriage, which may perhaps be acceptable or permissible consists of: ***

oral-genital pleasuring of one's spouse's body, that is, oral-genital sexual loveplay or sexplay.  [Song of Solomon.  Colossians 2:14-23 (especially verses 20-23).  Hebrews 13:4.]

Many christians forbid tasting of one's spouse's genitals.  Surely there are many reasonable, understandable reasons to refrain from such sexual "loveplay," or sexplay such as (e.g.), refraining on the grounds that one finds this to be awkward, embarrassing, unappealing, undesirable, unpleasant, offensive, personally repugnant, revolting, disgusting, humiliating....  But to condemn such sexual "loveplay" or sexplay on the grounds that it is supposedly "sodomy" is absolutely false, it is ignorant, and it is gross error!

In fact, in the Holy Bible (which is where the term sodomy originates) sodomy refers ONLY to sexual acts between people of the same-sex, that is, male with male, female with female (regardless what many ignorant, foolish, incompetent ministers over the years have communicated to the contrary, and regardless what perverted definitions have errantly been accepted as prevailing conventions and adopted by otherwise godly editors of dictionaries centuries ago...and incorporated into legislation long ago, notably in the "blue laws").

Vile promoters of the sodomite activist agenda in America have seized on American christians' errant fears that oral-genital loveplay in the marriage bed between husband and wife may be viewed by God and may be seen in God's Law erroneously as constituting sodomy (which it does not!), to intimidate christians into silence and to cow them into mutely refusing to stand up against the aggressive, persistent, rampant proliferation of the malicious sodomite activist agenda in America.  The sodomite activists' breathtaking success in embarrassing, shaming, and cowing christians into ignorantly, mutely retreating from the cultural battlefield and refraining from being seen or heard has been nothing short of a monstrously ruinous disaster for the church, for the home, for families, and for the nation in the USofA of today, but most monstrously, especially ruinous for children, youths, and young people!

In the following section of scripture references, those passages referring to sexual relations and those passages seemingly referring one way or another to oral-genital loveplay between husband & wife will be emphasized by formatting, e.g., underlining text, in order to show that such married sexual behaviour between husband & wife is apparently not contrary to scripture (though Not remotely essential, and absolutely NEVER mandatory, and should Never be engaged in if it grieves the wife).  The formatting emphasis is not intended to suggest any imagined "importance" of such loveplay, nor any need for such behaviour, but only to draw attention to the fact that such sexual conduct in the marriage bed is apparently addressed in the Holy Bible.  The pertinent scriptures in the Song of Solomon appear to agree with the verses of scripture listed in this 'chapter,' quoted from Colossians and Hebrews.

Regardless what the secular media...would have us believe concerning the purported physical sexual 'ecstasy' of the components and entirety of sexual relations, I do not believe that the sensations to be experienced from any or all of the actions of sexual relations amount to such mythical physical/sexual/sensual sensations and  pleasures, and I believe that this is exactly in accord with God's design for sexual relations, but more on this later.

One more preliminary note: the whole is more than a part or parts, the entirety is more than a component, or components, and sexual relations between husband and wife are more than loveplay.  To substitute loveplay for sexual intercourse is to have loveplay supplant that which it is intended to enhance; distorted overemphasis on loveplay to the minimizing or (worse yet) the exclusion of sexual intercourse is grossest error, it is pathetically foolish, and disastrously results in the exact opposite of God's intended purpose for it, with the result being the destruction of sexual intercourse and wedded love between husband and wife instead of the enhancement of sexual intercourse and wedded love.

A very poor analogy might go like this: a beach is more than a grain of sand or a pebble, to assert that a grain, or grains, or shovel's full, or buckets full or wheel-barrows full of sand, or a pebble, or pebbles, or shovels full, or buckets full, or wheel-barrows full of pebbles are a beach is to err profoundly; a beach is a beach, give or take however many grains of sand or pebbles (or even truckloads, trainloads, barges, & freightliners full of sand or pebbles), but some grains of sand or pebbles cannot constitute a beach, and to claim that they do is to do so very foolishly and dishonestly.

Time and time again in scripture God addresses sexual relations by way of speaking of food and drink, i.e., he refers to eating and drinking to describe sexual relations; by way of this convention that God uses repeatedly in His Word, permit the following very imperfect analogy: you might think of sexual (vaginal) intercourse as the main course or entree, while thinking of loveplay as appetizers, side dishes, desert....  A meal consisting only of the main course is clearly a meal, but snacks consisting only of appetizers, or side dishes, or deserts are not truly principal meals but rather are snacks.  Fad diets are notoriously unhealthy and harmful, even when they consist of foods that eaten in a balanced diet are nutritious, healthful, and wholesome, this is also true in sexual matters.  Hollywood is practically synonymous with quirky diets and dietary regimens, so too, Hollywood is practically synonymous with divorce being the rule rather than the exception, and with quirky, immoral, and perverse sexual relations.  God's ways are right, good, wholesome, healthful, robust, passionate, full of life, and at their best, wonderfully joyful, but rebellious sinful people are forever bent on following Satan in his evil attempts to change and pervert God's ways, in the name of improving on them & enhancing them.

In today's vernacular the term "sex" is used to refer to virtually any sexual behaviour, no matter how asexual, e.g., masturbation; no matter how limited, e.g., petting, heavy petting...oral loveplay; no matter how stupid, unclean, unhealthy, hazardous, Wrong, painful, potentially permanently debilitating, on occasion deadly dangerous, and always contrary to God's design, e.g., penetration of the woman's anus/rectum; and no matter how shameful, deviant, utterly perverse, and wicked, e.g., sodomy....  While any sexual action is sexual, by no means is every sexual action "sex," but sexual actions do not need to be sex to constitute sexual sin.  For instance, a certain past President of the United States engaged in all manner of sexual adventures with many people, including engaging in so-called "non-intercourse," or "outer-course," in the Oval Office with a most foolish young woman who was then a White House intern.  This former President apparently did not engage in sexual intercourse with the intern, and "angrily" publicly denied having had sexual relations with her; then when his lying denials of having ever committed sexual sin with her had been found out, he had the gall to "justify" his previous denials by claiming that technically they did not have sex!  But, curiously, if they did not engage in sexual (vaginal) intercourse, they did not "have sex" in the true sense of the expression; still, they most certainly, repeatedly, premeditatedly committed sexual sin, specifically adultery...while apparently not engaging in consummate sexual intercourse; thus the former President did deliberately attempt to deceive, mislead, cover-up, obstruct...by his liberal use of "poetic license," regarding "sex" and "sexual relations."  That past President by his wickedness, very definitely including his "Clinton Doctrine" that anything other than sexual (vaginal) intercourse does not constitute sexual relations, and therefore does not constitute sexual sin, created a self-perpetuating LEGACY which ruinously continues to this day, as vast multitudes of Junior High School-age children and High School-age adolescents experiment with such sexual sin, including even gathering at houses to participate in "oral sex" orgies or orgy-parties, at which they commit "oral sex" precociously, promiscuously, indiscriminately with one another, with the rationalization that what they are doing is not "sex," so it's OK!  The so-called "oral sex" engaged in by these children and adolescents is not "sex," but it is absolutely sexual sin, it is promiscuous premarital sexual sin!  Such sin not only results in eternal consequences (for those who do not confess, and repent of their sins); but it also results in seared consciences; spoiled, warped, perverted future romantic and sexual relations; sexually transmitted diseases galore; and for some of those girls who are seduced into taking part in such sexual sin, whether one on one, or at gang sexual sin parties/orgies...depression and even suicide follow!  [In some cases these girls are spurred on and pushed over the edge by vindictive "lovers" and nemesi spreading pictures around via cell phones and websites.]  Ah yes, what a legacy, Mr. President!  Too bad we couldn't have you in charge for another term or two!  But "the great one" continues to use his web of co-conspirators and others (such as the Presidents # 41 & 43) to rehabilitate his personal image to this very day, by reinventing his past actions and obscuring them, to the end of revisiting the bully pulpit via his former co-President and intended future co-President.

In God's order of things sexual: the actions and behaviours engaged in are never independent of the relationship, that is, the context. For instance, sexual (vaginal) intercourse in the marriage bed (that is, in marriage) is not only acceptable, but it is absolutely requisite, it is mandatory (Matthew 19); whereas, outside of the marriage bed (that is, outside of marriage) sexual (vaginal) intercourse is sin/fornication/whoremongerdom/whoredom, and/or adultery.  Oral-genital loveplay in the marriage bed is apparently permissible within marriage, though definitely voluntary and discretionary; whereas, outside of marriage oral sexual stimulation is absolutely sexual sin....  The context, that is, the relationship, makes all the difference!

However, the marriage bed or marriage is only undefiled as long as it is husband and wife; any perversion of this order by adding other women or girls defiles and destroys the marriage turning it into sexual sin, whoredom, adultery....

Regardless what evil success perverse men and women manage to accomplish in perverting the publicly accepted definition of marriage, the meaning and reality of marriage designed and created and ruled by God remains unchanged, whereas sodomy (male with male, female with female) remains sodomy, sodomy is always sexual perversion, sodomy is always abomination, sodomy is always damned, utterly and eternally damned as are those who choose to engage in it, to promote it, to champion it, to legalize it...and to force it upon society!

Hebrews 13:4

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge.

The sexual actions a man engages in with his wife in the marriage bed may in fact technically be the same sexual actions as those he could engage in with a woman outside of marriage (whether the extramarital sexual sin were "consensual," or whether he seduced the woman, or committed "statutory rape," that is, had sexual relations with a young woman/girl younger than the statutory "legal" age of consent, or whether he "employed"/purchased/rented a woman's sexual "services"), but the reality of whether the sexual actions are moral, righteous, good, and God-pleasing, or whether they are immoral, wrong, sinful, and condemned by God is entirely dependent on the context, specifically the relationship; additionally, if the actions are sin, the context determines the classification of sin, such as, whoredom, adultery, defrauding, rape.*

* Hosea 4:12-14

"My people ask counsel at their stocks, and their staff declareth unto them: for the spirit of whoredoms hath caused them to err, and they have gone a whoring from under their God.  They sacrifice upon the tops of the mountains, and burn incense upon the hills, under oaks and poplars and elms, because the shadow thereof is good: therefore your daughters shall commit whoredom, and your spouses shall commit adultery.  I will not punish your daughters when they commit whoredom, nor your spouses when they commit adultery: for they themselves are separated with whores, and they sacrifice with harlots: therefore the people that doth not understand shall fall."

Here God is referring to mothers and daughters committing the same physical sexual sin of sexual immorality, but God identifies the sexual sin of the mothers as adultery, while he identifies the sexual sin of their unmarried daughters as whoredom; the context, the relationship, does make a difference!

(To repeat)

Hebrews 13:4

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge.

All-importantly, whether sinful governments (including sinful church institutions), and/or agents of sinful governments, "legitimize" a relationship as allegedly being a marriage or not, God is the only authoritative judge, the righteous, holy, faithful, all-knowing, all-wise judge who created people both the male and his female, and who created sexuality, who created marriage, who created sexual reproduction....  And God's judgment will stand, and there will be no appeal whatever!

Additionally: if a husband orally stimulates and pleasures his wife to bring her to orgasm(s), her ability to satisfy him consummately vaginally on that occasion is not limited nor reduced; whereas, if a wife orally stimulates and pleasures her husband to ejaculation, his ability to consummately vaginally satisfy her is directly diminished,  reduced, and limited.  It is one thing for a wife to choose to orally stimulate her husband to bring him to erection to facilitate vaginal intercourse (before initial intercourse, or after intercourse and before additional intercourse, on that occasion), but it is another thing entirely for the husband to require his wife to orally bring him to ejaculation and orgasm instead of/in the place of reaching ejaculation and orgasm via sexual (vaginal) intercourse; therefore (unless a man has suffered a sexually debilitating injury, wound, disease, or condition after marriage), only a selfish, self-centered, shameful, pig of a man will require his wife to engage in purposely bringing him to orgasm and ejaculation orally!

The world's sexperts teach that it is up to each person to satisfy himself or herself, that it is their responsibility to attend to their own sexual satisfaction, and not to depend on their partner to satisfy them, nor to concern themselves with sexually satisfying their partner, but instead to focus on pleasing themselves.  God's Word teaches the diametric and extreme opposite, going so far as to say that the man does not have power over his own body, but his wife; and that the woman does not have power over her own body, but her husband.

You can choose the world's ways or you can choose God's ways, but they are mutually exclusive; and frankly, the world's ways stink!  If you watch any of the many morning television programs on network television you will note many patterns, one is that no matter what the issue addressed, if it has anything to do with relations whether social, cultural, romantic, sexual, or family..."experts" are always consulted to provide authoritative answers, directions, advice, instruction...and these "experts" are invariably psychologists, psychiatrists, and sociologists...with the rare exception of when they are hireling, apostate ministers, "rabbis," clerics, or astrologers or mediums....  And yes these programs pass for mainstream Americana, regular, wholesome, down-to-earth, good fun....

A further word: God who created we people, created sexuality, created sexual intercourse, created sexual procreation...and designed the woman for the man.  God designed the woman's vulva and vagina to receive the man's penis, and to receive pleasure thereby.  God did not create the woman's rectum to receive the man's penis any more than he created the man's rectum to receive man's penis; the woman's rectum is no more fit to receive the man's penis than another man's rectum is!  Only a son of Belial, i.e., a perverse, vile, lewd, profane excuse of a man, will choose to abuse his wife's rectum rather than pleasuring her vaginally, as God designed, created, provided, intended, and intends!  Also, a woman's rectum can be torn by anal penetration, resulting in lifelong misery thereafter, and can also result in infection which can kill her!  Furthermore; God did not create the woman's sexual organs to be plied by the myriad foreign objects and tools that contemporary Marquis de Sades and sadists use to defile, molest, abuse, violate, rape, torture (and on occasion murder) girls and women!  [God never intended little girls sexual organs to be plied by young men's and men's penises; the penchant Muslim males have for raping little girls, and terming it marriage, following the lead of their exalted false prophet Muhammad, is evil, is violence, is perversity, is extremely dangerous for the poor little girls, and is unspeakably terrible to them even when it doesn't kill them, but what do you expect from holy Islam!  This Islamic crime of violence against little girls is a torturous crime, but only one of myriad violent evils perpetrated at Muhammad's and Allah's direction and with their blessing; how "holy" can you get?  But this torturous crime against little girls born of Muslim mothers and little girls taken captive from Christian parents who have been truly martyred by Islamist Jihadists, and other poor little girls viciously raped by Islamists (such as the young girls very seriously sexually injured by the serial-rapist Islamist public school teacher in Florida).  These Islamist evils go hand in hand with genital mutilation of little girls, girls, and young women by Muslims; these are fruits of Islam, and of Islam's god Satan, aka Allah!] 

Absent disease being present the genital tract is clean (despite the very close proximity of the female genital orifice to the rectum), the same can never be said of the rectal tract; the rectum is always teaming with bacteria present in fecal waste, and when disease is present it is teaming with viral germs.  The rectum was not designed and created by God, for phallic penetration and thrusting; the rectum can tear and rupture permitting the bacteria (and if present viral germs) to enter and contaminate the woman's body and vital organs.  The woman's vulva and vagina were perfectly custom designed, custom created, for sexual intercourse (and even for child-bearing).  The rectum was created and designed exclusively for the removal of waste products, hazardous to the body, from the body.  The perverted men, young men, and even boys, who claim they are heterosexual but who copy the vile perverted sodomite anal substitute* for sexual intercourse with their wives, 'women friends,' 'girl friends,' and girls (that they have seen practiced in pornography, which is ever promoting corruption, perversion, degradation of women and girls, and violence against women and girls), jeopardize the health, the well-being, the futures, and the very lives of their wives, 'women friends,' 'girl friends,' and girls.  These shameful young "men" and "men" deserve to lose their wives, their 'women friends,' their 'girl friends,' and the natural use of the woman permanently!  But monstrously the girls and women will be the only ones who will suffer directly from such perversion visited upon them by vile boys and men!

*Anal penetration, so-called "anal sex," has been promoted on major website portals by "authorities" as being a legitimate and popular "new" sexual practice.  According to a special television program from France regarding the hyper-sexualization of society, anal penetration is something that young girls are asking teachers if they have to allow boys to do to them, along with having to permit vaginal intercourse/statutory rape and the oral substitute for it!!!!

P.S. - I know that I will be heavily criticized and/or condemned by some (even by many) christians for stating what I believe may be biblically acceptable additional voluntary sexual loveplay in the marriage bed; but I believe this deserves to be communicated, especially given the barrage of lies promoted by the enemies of God without and within the church today.  Possibly permissible practices are discretionary, voluntary, another thing entirely from mandatory, and in any case they should never ever constitute more than a distinct minority of time and attention during sexual relations, if that.  If they are intended at all, they are intended to enhance sexual relations, not to take away from sexual relations; they must never take away from, diminish, nor ever supplant sexual intercourse, aka vaginal intercourse. The answers concerning mandatory/requisite sexual practices in the marriage bed are absolute, they are unshakably true; whereas the answers regarding discretionary, possibly permissible practices are the best that I can give.  Kindly seek the Lord's guidance as to whether these things are true, correct, and accurate.  Further, one possible reason for the Old Testament prohibition of sexual intercourse when a woman is menstruating, is God's condemnation of eating with the blood/eating blood, which could and very likely would occur if a man gave oral loveplay to a menstruous woman.

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Hebrews 13:4

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge.

In the following section of scripture references those passages referring to sexual relations and those passages seemingly referring one way or another to oral-genital loveplay between husband & wife will be emphasized by formatting, e.g., underlining text, in order to show that such married sexual behaviour between husband & wife is apparently not contrary to scripture (though by no means essential, and absolutely NEVER mandatory).  The formatting emphasis is not intended to suggest any possible "importance" of such loveplay, nor any need for such behaviour, but only to draw attention to the fact that such sexual conduct in the marriage bed is apparently addressed in the Holy Bible.  As for what sexual behaviours are permissible and even God-designed for receiving and enjoying in the marriage bed, the Song of Solomon is a poetic description (and owing to its poetic imagery, sincere disagreement over what behaviours are in fact described and alluded to in the book, also known as the Song of Songs, is understandable).  Some passages are emphasized because they refer by name and description to the genitals and thus seemingly support the passages which refer to oral-genital loveplay.  Additionally, it should be seen that the pertinent scriptures in the Song of Solomon appear to agree with the verses of scripture listed in this 'chapter,' quoted from Colossians and Hebrews.

Genesis 49:25

Even by the God of thy father, who shall help thee; and by the Almighty, who shall bless thee with blessings of heaven above, blessings of the deep that lieth under, blessings of the breasts, and of the womb:

Deuteronomy 33:13

And of Joseph he said, Blessed of the LORD be his land, for the precious things of heaven, for the dew, and for the deep that coucheth beneath,

Isaiah 45:1-3

Thus saith the LORD to His anointed, to Cyrus, whose right hand I have holden, to subdue nations before Him; and I will loose the loins of kings, to open before Him the two leaved gates; and the gates shall not be shut; I will go before thee, and make the crooked places straight: I will break in pieces the gates of brass, and cut in sunder the bars of iron: And I will give thee the treasures of darkness, and hidden riches of secret places, that thou mayest know that I, the LORD, which call thee by thy name, am the God of Israel.

Ezekiel 41:23-24

And the temple and the sanctuary had two doors.  And the doors had two leaves apiece, two turning leaves; two leaves for the one door, and two leaves for the other door.

Proverbs 5:15-19

Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.  Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.  Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.  Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.  Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times: and be thou ravished always with her love.

Colossians 2:14-23 (especially verses 20-23)

Blotting out the handwriting of ordinances that was against us, which was contrary to us, and took it out of the way, nailing it to his cross; And having spoilied principalities and powers, he made a shew of them openly, triumphing over them in it.  Let no man therefore judge you in meat, or in drink, or in respect of an holyday, or of the new moon, or of the sabbath days: Which are a shadow of things to come; but the body is of Christ.  Let no man beguile you of your reward in a voluntary humility and worshipping of angels, intruding into those things which he hath not seen, vainly puffed up by his fleshly mind.  And not holding the Head, from which all the body by joints and bands having nourishment ministered, and knit together, increaseth with the increase of God.  Wherefore if ye be dead with Christ from the rudiments of the world, why, as though living in the world, are ye subject to ordinances, (Touch not; taste not; handle not; Which all are to perish with the using;) after the commandments and doctrines of men?  Which things have indeed a shew of wisdom in will worship, and humility, and neglecting of the body; not in any honour to the satisfying of the flesh.

Hebrews 13:4

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers GOD will judge.

The Song of Solomon/The Song of Songs

Song of Solomon 1:1-17

The song of songs, which is Solomon's.  Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.  Because of the savour of thy good ointments thy name is as ointment poured forth, therefore do the virgins love thee.  Draw me, we will run after thee: the king hath brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will remember thy love more than wine: the upright love thee.

I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon.  Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: my mother's children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept.

Tell me, O thou whom my soul loveth, where thou feedest, where thou makest thy flock to rest at noon: for why should I be as one that turneth aside by the flocks of thy companions?   If thou know not, O thou fairest among women, go thy way forth by the footsteps of the flock, and feed thy kids beside the shepherds' tents.

I have compared thee, O my love, to a company of horses in Pharaoh's chariots.  Thy cheeks are comely with rows of jewels, thy neck with chains of gold.  We will make thee borders of gold with studs of silver.

While the king sitteth at his table, my spikenard sendeth forth the smell thereof.  A bundle of myrrh is my wellbeloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts.  My beloved is unto me as a cluster of camphire in the vineyards of Engedi.  Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes.  Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green.  The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir.

Song of Solomon 2:1-17

I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys.  As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.  As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons.  I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.  He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.  Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples: for I am sick of love.  His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me.  I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.

The voice of my beloved! behold, he cometh leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills.  My beloved is like a roe or a young hart: behold, he standeth behind our wall, he looketh forth at the windows, shewing himself through the lattice.  My beloved spake, and said unto me, Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away.  For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone; The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle (turtledove) is heard in our land; The fig tree putteth forth her green figs, and the vines with the tender grape give a good smell.  Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away.

O my dove, that art in the clefts of the rock, in the secret places of the stairs, let me see thy countenance, let me hear thy voice; for sweet is thy voice, and thy countenance is comely.  Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes.  

My beloved is mine, and I am his: he feedeth among the liliesUntil the day break, and the shadows flee away, turn, my beloved, and be thou like a roe or a young hart upon the mountains of Bether.

Song of Solomon 3:1-11

By night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth: I sought him, but I found him not.  I will rise now, and go about the city in the streets, and in the broad ways I will seek him whom my soul loveth; I sought him, but I found him not.  The watchmen that go about the city found me: to whom I said, Saw ye him whom my soul loveth?  It was but a little that I passed from them, but I found him whom my soul loveth: I held him and would not let him go, until I had brought him into my mother's house, and into the chamber of her that conceived me.  I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.

Who is this that cometh out of the wilderness like pillars of smoke, perfumed with myrrh and frankincense, with all powders of the merchant?  Behold his bed, which is Solomon's: threescore valiant men are about it, of the valiant of Israel.  They all hold swords, being expert in war: every man hath his sword upon his thigh because of fear in the night.  King Solomon made himself a chariot of the wood of Lebanon.  He made the pillars thereof of silver, the bottom thereof of gold, the covering of it of purple, the midst thereof being paved with love, for the daughters of Jerusalem. (Solomon's "love"-mobile)

Go forth, O ye daughters of Zion, and behold king Solomon with the crown wherewith his mother crowned him in the day of his espousals, and in the day of the gladness of his heart.

Song of Solomon 4:1-16

Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes within thy locks: thy hair is as a flock of goats, that appear from Mount Gilead.  Thy teeth are like a flock of sheep that are even shorn, which came up from the washing; whereof every one bear twins, and none is barren among them.  Thy lips are like a thread of scarlet, and thy speech is comely: thy temples are like a piece of a pomegranate within thy locks.  Thy neck is like the tower of David builded for an armoury, whereon there hang a thousand bucklers, all shields of mighty men.  Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins, which feed among the lilies.  Until the day break, and the shadows flee away, I will get me to the mountain of myrrh, and to the hill of frankincense.  Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee.

Come with me from Lebanon, my spouse, with me from Lebanon: look from the top of Amana, from the top of Shenir and Hermon, from the lions' dens, from the mountains of the leopards.  Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse; thou hast ravished my heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck.  How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices!  Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon.

A garden inclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealedThy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard, Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices; A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from LebanonAwake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow outLet my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.  

Song of Solomon 5:1-16

I am come into my garden, my sister, my spouse: I have gathered my myrrh with my spice; I have eaten my honeycomb with my honey; I have drunk my wine with my milk: eat, O friends; drink, yea, drink abundantly, O beloved.

I sleep, but my heart waketh: it is the voice of my beloved that knocketh, saying, Open to me, my sister, my love, my dove, my undefiled: for my head is filled with dew, and my locks with the drops of the night.  I have put off my coat; how shall I put it on?  I have washed my feet; how shall I defile them?

My beloved put in his hand by the hole of the door, and my bowels were moved for himI rose up to open to my beloved; and my hands dropped with myrrh, and my fingers with sweet smelling myrrh, upon the handles of the lockI opened to my beloved; but my beloved had withdrawn himself, and was gone: my soul failed when he spake: I sought him, but I could not find him; I called him, but he gave me no answer.

The watchmen that went about the city found me, they smote me, they wounded me; the keepers of the walls took away my veil from me.  I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, if ye find my beloved, that ye tell him, that I am sick of love.

What is thy beloved more than another beloved, O thou fairest among women? what is thy beloved more than another beloved, that thou dost so charge us?

My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand.  His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven.  His eyes are as the eyes of doves by the rivers of waters, washed with milk, and fitly set.  His cheeks are as a bed of spices, as sweet flowers: his lips like lilies, dropping sweet smelling myrrh.  His hands are as gold rings set with the beryl: his belly is as bright ivory overlaid with sapphires.  His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars.  His mouth is most sweet: yea, he is altogether lovely.  This is my beloved, and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.

Song of Solomon 6:1-13

Whither is thy beloved gone, O thou fairest among women? whither is thy beloved turned aside? that we may seek him with thee.  My beloved is gone down into his garden, to the beds of spices, to feed in the gardens, and to gather liliesI am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine: he feedeth among the lilies.

Thou art beautiful, O my love, as Tirzah, comely as Jerusalem, terrible as an army with banners.  Turn away thine eyes from me, for they have overcome me: thy hair is as a flock of goats that appear from Gilead.  Thy teeth are as a flock of sheep which go up from the washing, whereof every one beareth twins, and there is not one barren among them.  As a piece of a pomegranate are thy temples within thy locks.

There are threescore queens, and fourscore concubines, and virgins without number.  My dove, my undefiled is but one; she is the only one of her mother, she is the choice one of her that bare her.  The daughters saw her, and blessed her; yea, the queens and the concubines, and they praised her.  Who is she that looketh forth as the morning, fair as the moon, clear as the sun, and terrible as an army with banners?

I went down into the garden of nuts to see the fruits of the valley, and to see whether the vine flourished, and the pomegranates budded.

Or ever I was aware, my soul made me like the chariots of Amminadib.  Return, return, O Shulamite; return, return, that we may look upon thee.  What will ye see in the Shulamite?  As it were the company of two armies.

Song of Solomon 7:1-13

How beautiful are thy feet with shoes, O prince's daughter! the joints of thy thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a cunning workmanThy navel is like a round goblet, which wanteth not liquor: thy belly is like an heap of wheat set about with lilies.  Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins.  Thy neck is as a tower of ivory; thine eyes like the fishpools in Heshbon, by the gate of Bathrabbim: thy nose is as the tower of Lebanon which looketh toward Damascus.  Thine head upon thee is like Carmel, and the hair of thine head like purple; the king is held in the galleries.  How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights!

This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes.  I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples; And the roof of thy mouth like the best wine for my beloved, that goeth down sweetly, causing the lips of those that are asleep to speak.

I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me.  Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages.  Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my lovesThe mandrakes give a smell, and at our gates are all manner of pleasant fruits, new and old, which I have laid up for thee, O my beloved.

Song of Solomon 8:1-14

O that thou wert as my brother, that sucked the breasts of my mother! when I should find thee without, I would kiss thee; yea, I should not be despised.  I would lead thee, and bring thee into my mother's house, who would instruct me: I would cause thee to drink of spiced wine of the juice of my pomegranate.  His left hand should be under my head, and his right hand should embrace me.

I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, until he please.  Who is this that cometh up from the wilderness, leaning upon her beloved?  I raised thee up under the apple tree: there thy mother brought thee forth: there she brought thee forth that bare thee.

Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame.  Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned.

We have a little sister, and she hath no breasts: what shall we do for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken for?  If she be a wall, we will build upon her a palace of silver: and if she be a door, we will inclose her with boards of cedar.  I am a wall, and my breasts like towers: then was I in his eyes as one that found favour.

Solomon had a vineyard at Baalhamon; he let out the vineyard unto keepers; every one for the fruit thereof was to bring a thousand pieces of silver.  My vineyard, which is mine, is before me: thou, O Solomon, must have a thousand, and those that keep the fruit thereof two hundredThou that dwellest in the gardens, the companions hearken to thy voice: cause me to hear it.  Make haste, my beloved, and be thou like to a roe or to a young hart upon the mountains of spices.

.  As for an explanation of why I believe God created sexual relations to be relatively moderate experiences physically/sensually, while being exceedingly far from mild in terms of desire, and ever so much more profound emotionally and spiritually....

God created sexuality for a number of intensely practical purposes: to powerfully intimately physically and spiritually unite a man and a woman in an indissoluble union; to create family; for sexual reproduction - creation of children; and to provide enjoyment and pleasure in this painful sad life.

I believe that God did not want the sexual experience to be so gratifying that people would spend their time in little else other than engaging in sexual relations with their spouse, and in gathering food....  In other words sexual relations were always intended to be vitally important, and necessary, but not inordinately all-consuming or in today's vernacular 'addictive.'  God always intended the sensual sensations of the sexual experience to be subordinate to the emotional and spiritual aspects of the sexual experience.

As for a scripture which you can take or leave regarding this issue, but which I believe addresses this specific issue succinctly and profoundly:

Hosea 13:13 "The sorrows of a travailing woman shall come upon him: he is an unwise son; for he should not stay long in the place of the breaking forth of children."

Personally, I strongly dislike this scripture, for what I believe is its meaning, but (unlike so very many ministers and theologians) I do not omit* scriptures that I dislike, even if they are not repeated anywhere else in the Holy Bible.

I am convinced that God did not want the sexual experience to be so ecstatic physically/sensually as to overpower the relationship, and thus to compel men and women to engage in sexual relations outside of their marriages (with whomever they could) if their spouses were not available for a time.

* While I do not omit scriptures that I dislike or do not agree with that are not repeated or not oft-repeated in the Holy Bible, I do not emphasize such scriptures.

[I realize there are fine head-in-the-sand christian people who will think it is indecent to include these photos of the sculpture of David ( by Michelangelo) that are included below, which are routinely displayed and seen (slide show photos of which were shown to my public coed mandatory art class during Junior High School in 1967-68, when I was 13 years of age; yes, I really am that old, and have suffered never being blessed with wedded love and the marriage bed, nor children).

Whatever else may be said of these photos, they do not portray man's sexual anatomy in such a way as to exaggerate, magnify, or glorify man's sexual endowments, do they? and yet oddly Michelangelo's David is coveted by sodomite males (aka homosexuals), who absolutely fixate on sodomite sexual acts, not same-sex partner "love" as they are calculatedly portrayed as "preferring"; likewise, sodomite females (aka lesbians) fixate on sodomite sexual acts, not same-sex partner "love."]

.  Some christians like to wear symbols or decorate their belongings with them to the end that they may be identified by other christians, e.g., WWJD; so too, Sodomites use symbols in a variety of ways to the end that they may recognize and be recognized by one-another, a favorite symbol, seemingly a universal favorite, of sodomites is the statue of young pre-king David by Michelangelo.  Dear ladies, if you find that your husbands-to-be have this statue or a photo or painting of it decorating their abodes, work-places, offices...you should take warning and flee, before you suffer ruinous damage.  Additionally, ladies, if your husbands-to-be have rainbows or rainbow colors (as on decals...), and slogans containing the word "diversity," e.g., promote diversity...adorning their vehicles...or if their favorite colors are purple and pink, beware, flee, get away without delay! or, would you rather "marry" a Sodomite!?!  If you ignore my warning, don't blame me if you wind up "married" to a sodomite.

PS - Ironically the demise of society in the USA and western nations with the relatively recent attendant promotion and honoring of sodomy and sodomites, including the institution of the profane and pathetic legal fiction of so-called "same-sex marriage," should minimize the incidence of the monstrous tragedy described immediately above this PS; but the overflowing wrath of the judgement of God to be visited upon nations which embrace such wickedness, most inexcusably the western civilized "christian" nations, and especially monstrously the United States of America, will subject all peoples in these nations to untold suffering.


Brad Thomas, aka CBM's Editor, "Ed."

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i don't know about all the mushy stuff, but it sure beats the yucky stuff, pooey; and how come those naked boys don't have to wear didies like me? i'd get a spanking if i crawled around here bare naked, and i'm just an adorably cute lil' babe (i know, because all the women who ignore the boss say so)!  home (toc)

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